s/o of Push Present

allobosc

I was kinda thinking, what is the difference between expecting a "push present" and expecting to be recognized on Mother's Day?  Is it different b/c Father's Day soon follows?

I totally agree that expecting something extravagant for a push present is absurd, but acknowledgment of it all I don't think is a bad thing (whether flowers, a card, jewelry, or chick-fil-a). I'm just saying that most moms expect some sort of gift or treat on Mother's day too, is there a difference?

Also as a sidenote--This whole argument kinda reminds me of wedding planning and the exchanging of gifts that some brides expect from their husbands on that day too in addition to the wedding and joy of becoming married.

luvdv8

Mother's Day gifts are from my children- sure DH buys them now on their behalf, but it's a thank you for being their mother. Once they are old enough to make something or get something on their own I don't expect DH to have anything to do with it. We say "good job" to each other on mother's day/ father's day for another year of work, but we don't exchange gifts with each other. DH doesn't owe me anything for parenting because he's doing the same. He also doesn't owe me anything for delivery our child, it's part of my job as being a mother.

MrsDrCook

allobosc:

Also as a sidenote--This whole argument kinda reminds me of wedding planning and the exchanging of gifts that some brides expect from their husbands on that day too in addition to the wedding and joy of becoming married.

Wait a second! I was supposed to get a gift from DH on my wedding day??? ...Must be on back order (4 years late ; )

vflipo

I don't expect anything on Mother's Day. And the only push present I care about is having a healthy baby. I could care less about anything else.

Serpentesbride

More often then not te women demanding push presents are also married to men that were not eager to have a child in the first place. You ask a man if they want to have another kid I would say 7 out of 10 say no but then they have to buy us gifts for doing such a great job? What we are doing is nature. We are not "working" to make this child. The baby will come whether we facilitate it or not. Sorry push presents are dumb. 

MG7

All I really want on Mother's Day is to spend a nice day with my DS. It would be nice if DH would mop or something but that's about all I'm looking for. I will look forward to the handmade cards and macaroni necklaces in the future but the handprint cards I've gotten from DS's daycare have all be laminated and stuck in his baby book and are really cute.

As far as a push present - all I wanted after DS was pushed out was a damn sandwich when he was being checked out in the nursery and I couldn't be with him. I expect that I'll have the same want this time around but hopefully it won't be a cold egg sandwich rather something giant and delicious.

shaysmom05

Mother's Day/ Father's Day for us is our chance to sleep in and let the kids "do something special". Even if that means I sleep in an hour on Mother's Day while DH helps DD fix me some Cheerios for breakfast in bed.

andrea922

Serpentesbride:

More often then not te women demanding push presents are also married to men that were not eager to have a child in the first place. You ask a man if they want to have another kid I would say 7 out of 10 say no but then they have to buy us gifts for doing such a great job? What we are doing is nature. We are not "working" to make this child. The baby will come whether we facilitate it or not. Sorry push presents are dumb. 

This is the most ridiculous statement ever. Women who 'demand' push presents have husbands who don't want babies? Yeah, I am interested to see your research on this one.

I am not quite sure why women care if another woman gets a gift after their baby is born. Or on mother's day. Or on their wedding day. Unless the money is coming out of your bank account who cares? And for the record, I have never asked for a gift from my dh. I just think the arguing about this is so overboard on here.

TiffanyTheMom

Personally, a gift is a given in appreciation for something. Like, I gave my DH a 'push present' to celebrate our future with our new child (on our first pregnancy, it was a new camcorder to record our family events ) but didn't expect anything in return.

With the wedding thing, sometimes people give each other gifts on the wedding gift as a 'thank you for marrying me' appreciation. And for others, just having that wedding is a celebration enough. Why is either one right or wrong? 

Some men are grateful for the pregnancy their wives has gone through and they give them a thank you, hence the push present. I think it's greedy for a woman to ask for that, I mean if you wanted something special like a bracelet or whatever- either buy it yourself or save it to ask for it for your birthday or Christmas or whatever. But to ask for a gift in any situation is greedy IMO. 

TwistedFirestarter

Whatever. I fully expect a cocktail waiting for me once I squeeze this kid out. That counts as a push present, right?