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Things you regret putting on hold

VeilSdeGTOVeilSdeGTO member
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If I knew it would have taken us this long and still no BFP since our loss, we would have done things differently.

1. We would have booked and taken our trip to Europe this summer. 

2. I would have started working out and losing the post pg weight a lot sooner

3. I would have taken a different job at another school.

4. We wouldn't have purchased our "family" car

 

What are some things you would have done differently?

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BFP 7.7.09 - CVS 9.10.09 (Girl) - 9.24.09 Severe Fatal Malformation - D&E 10.7.09 @ 17wks
BFP 6.1.10 - 6.10.10 Ectopic M/C @ 5wks
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  • julesjbjulesjb member

    I would have not put starting a family on hold. I am a type A plan everything sorta of person and my husband was all about the budget. We waited a few years after getting married to start trying.  We went on some vacations and saved to buy our house in that time. I even was concerned about "losing" my body. We did all kinds of things for ourselves. As soon as we closed on the house we started trying last year and here we are.

    My husband reminds me all the time if we had tried earlier we would still be living in our 500 square feet of space and wouldnt have had the experiences we had over the last few years. I can't help but punish myself that I should have gone off the BCP earlier and not waited.  I know looking back its always easy to say but I just feel so selfish and guilty....maybe things would have been different.

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
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    I would have not put starting a family on hold.

    This.  If I had known I would struggle with infertility, we would have started trying much earlier.

    I also regret not traveling more and not booking trips because we *might* be pregnant.

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  • shoefreak85shoefreak85
    I regret buying our "family" car too.  We bought it after 6 months of trying, thinking that we had to get lucky soon.  Now, I wish I was still driving my little Jetta (especially with gas prices inching towards $3/gal)!
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  • rock-ellerock-elle member
    TTC, I never would have waited this long...oh and chartingSurprise
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  • EricaK28EricaK28 member
    We waited six months before we started TTC after we got married. We went on a couple vacations after we got married andare woking on remodeling basement. We got married August 1st of 2009. We closed on our house right after we got married.We have been together 7 years in March. I was on BCP for 6 years. I wish I would have went off BCP a few months before the wedding. I also wish if we would have got married sooner then we could have tried sooner. I am 29 years old 30 in October. I always thought I would have a couple kids before hitting 30.
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  • Izabella22Izabella22 member

    Well I wish I had maintained my exercise regimen after I got married... picking it up now is just harder.

    Right now I wish we had started trying right after we got married but that is really just b/c I wish we had a baby before DH's daughter (selfish, yup, but it is what it is).

    Not really on hold, but I wish I had been more open about my losses w/ people. I am pretty sure if/when I get pg I am going to disclose b/c I know I'm going to be a nervous wreck but now I wish I had that support all along. 

    Switching doctors. I should have switched while I was experiencing my 2nd loss. We could have already had this testing done and out of the way and potentially be trying this month. Its killing me thinking that because I hesitated we're waiting longer than "necessary" 2 cycles. I'm struggling with that regret. I could have been testing now damnit...

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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    I regret waiting to TTC and I regret buying my "mom car." 
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  • PachitaPachita member

    I regret putting on hold TTC.  DH and I always had excuses to why we wanted to wait more and more.

    DH is 35 and I'll be 31 next month.  We want to have more than 1 child so I'm feeling rushed.

    BFP#1: 7/14/10.  EDD: 3/19/11--MMC-- D&C 9/2/10.
    BFP#2: 12:22/10.EDD: 8/30/11 C/P 12/25/10
    BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby!                                                                                                                                           BFP #4:  2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15                                                                                                                                                                                      BFP #5:  4/5/15   EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)

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  • FmrAFBratFmrAFBrat member
    I wish we had went ahead & painted the house.  I put it on hold when I found out I was pregnant & we haven't gotten there.  I also wish I hadn't gotten "family cars" and a bigger house last year because it's just a constant reminder.
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    BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10, 10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2 12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP #4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
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