Parenting after a Loss

Mommy guilt

I'm feeling a lot of mommy guilt right now. My job is not so fun lately and making me resent the time I'm away from my son just to keep up my half of the paychecks. I feel incredibly guilty for having to put my son in a center-type daycare rather than a nanny, in-home daycare, or with a family member. I'm feeling guilty that LO always seems to have the sniffles or some other illness from being around other snotty kids all day. I'm feeling guilty that I can't seem to find the magic DH has that gets him to fall asleep within 10 minutes of putting him down, while it has taken me 45 (and he's still awake...DH went in to read him a story and try his hand at it).

ugh. Just a big pity party over here. 

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Re: Mommy guilt

  • First of all ((big hugs)), second of all, you don't have to be super mommy, third of all, you are an awesome mom! It really truly is hard to be a mother these days, especially now that most families HAVE to have to working parents with the economy the way it is. I currently don't work, but if I don't get my arse in gear soon, we'll be in the poor house. (I wish I were kidding) It's going to feel like you are a failure, but you really are doing the best you can, and Bennett can only ask for that. Things do eventually look up, so keep at it and smile! :)
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  • There is no perfect solution. I had serious mommy guilt and changed my whole job and work schedule to be home more. Now I have mom guilt every time I turn on the tv for LO or when I want a few hours alone. It's hard to be a mommy. I think most of us struggle with mommy guilt about SOMETHING. I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job! Hugs!!!
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  • Hugs to you. I totally get how you feel. It's already hard enough to be a mommy. When you add work on top of it and are away from your child it is even worse. I feel guilty all of the time. There are days I cannot get my child out of my head and want to just cry because I would rather be at home. I then feel guilty when I do get home, exhausted, and just want help from DH.

    You are doing a wonderful job. Keep your chin up!

  • :::hugs::: You're an awesome mommy and you do they best you can for your LO every day - don't forget that.
    Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
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