What's not to get? (Vent long)

EMLYNNLERETTE

My little sister is getting married in September and I am one of her bridesmaids.  Obviously I agreed to purchase whatever dress she chose as long as it isn't over $200.  I think that is incredibly reasonable since that is a lot of money to anyone that is in her wedding to spend on a dress for one day.  So the dress she chooses is $199.  Ok.  So then the last few weeks she has been going on and on about how I need to order my dress and the lady says I have to or we might not get it in time (it's a 15 week order!)  I have tried the "You know I am pregnant and I have no idea what size I will be..." but since it IS a 15 week order I will still need to purchase the dress before I am due.  So then I told her just because I will have to order it prebirth does not mean that my measurements NOW are going to help at all. Today I got a message saying, "I need your measurements so we can order your dress."  

Um... Do I need to tell her one more time that my boobs have grown 2 whole cup sizes already and God only knows when they will stop growing?!  I feel terrible, because I know how stressful planning a wedding is, but on the other hand I have worked in a bridal store and know how pushy the sales people are!  I don't want to buy a dress that will be too small for my body come a few months from now, but I also don't want to pay for unnecessary alterations either.  I am perfectly aware I am going to have to buy this dress, I obviously know WHEN it needs to be ordered by and I just want to tell her to back off! 

Any suggestions?

cvl105

Why not call the store yourself and find out an exact date you need to order by?  That way you can tell your sister you're in contact with the store and they advised you to wait until such and such time to order so that they can get good measurements. Also, I'm sure the store has dealt with pregnant BMs before and will know what to do with you.

MelanieAdam0707

cvl105:

Why not call the store yourself and find out an exact date you need to order by?  That way you can tell your sister you're in contact with the store and they advised you to wait until such and such time to order so that they can get good measurements. Also, I'm sure the store has dealt with pregnant BMs before and will know what to do with you.

Completely agree 100% with this...

EMLYNNLERETTE

MelanieAdam0707:

cvl105:

Why not call the store yourself and find out an exact date you need to order by?  That way you can tell your sister you're in contact with the store and they advised you to wait until such and such time to order so that they can get good measurements. Also, I'm sure the store has dealt with pregnant BMs before and will know what to do with you.

Completely agree 100% with this...

Yea, my sister apparently already told the lady that I'm pregnant...  I think she is just a pushy sales person.  I was hoping I wouldn't have to call her up and give her the "Listen Lady!" speech... I guess I might have to!

Turtle143

Sometimes those sales ladies are only pushy because they want to make the sale. I ended up having 2 wedding dresses but my first one I made a mistake of ordering from David's Bridal. They were pushy I buy the dress that same day, and giddy, sucker me I did order it with them telling me it takes a longgggggggg time to get them in, so i'd better order asap, yadda yadda. Dress came in about 3 weeks later. They told me it would takes months. Psssh.
Anyway, then again depends on where you'rr getting the dress, what kind is it, how in demand they are.

I'm not sure I've helped much but I do hope the sales lady finds a solution for you!

DowagerCountessofNJ

Honestly, you should just order the dress now and make your sister happy and let her cross one more item off of her list.  We've all been there with planning a wedding and know how stressful it can be at times.  Interest a BM who the bride feels isn't cooperating (not saying you are or aren't) and it could turn ugly quickly.

I don't blame her for wanting to order the dresses now.  Manufacturer mistakes happen and dresses come in in the wrong colors or styles on occasion.  If she orders the dresses sooner rather than later it'll give her time to deal with a mess like that if it should come up.

Maybe go to a trusted seamstress with a picture of the dress and get her thoughts on your estimated measurements.  The bridal shop may also have a good idea what measurements you should use when ordering.

KristenRizz

ugh i rememember they told my BM the same thing and the dress was in within 4 weeks. I honestly wouldnt totally rush it. I wouldn't wait til 4 weeks before bu i think you will be ok to wait a little while.

JuneBug0611

You'll give birth 2-3 months before your sister's wedding, right?  So it seems like your measurements now would be a pretty good proxy for what you will be like then.  You'll certainly be closer to your size now 3 months post-birth than you'll be to your size directly before giving birth, don't you think?  If you're planning to BF, then plan for an increased bustline, but otherwise, I don't know that waiting is going to really help you figure out what the right size will be come your sister's wedding.  It's such a crapshoot how quickly you lose the baby weight.

That being said, if they only need 15 weeks to process the order, it's still several months until you would need to order, so I don't understand why they're being so insistent you order now.  I didn't get onto my bridesmaids about ordering until it was within a week of the absolute cutoff date for ordering. 

norbert5

I would first give her the "Listen Lady!" speech. 

I also really hope that your sister picked a dress that is post-pregnancy friendly.  I know that with DD 3 months out I wasn't feeling like getting all dressed up.  My only tip for your dress if you are going to breastfeed your boobs most likely will still be bigger then what you are used to.

Becky262

EMLYNNLERETTE:

MelanieAdam0707:

cvl105:

Why not call the store yourself and find out an exact date you need to order by?  That way you can tell your sister you're in contact with the store and they advised you to wait until such and such time to order so that they can get good measurements. Also, I'm sure the store has dealt with pregnant BMs before and will know what to do with you.

Completely agree 100% with this...

Yea, my sister apparently already told the lady that I'm pregnant...  I think she is just a pushy sales person.  I was hoping I wouldn't have to call her up and give her the "Listen Lady!" speech... I guess I might have to!

There's really no way around waiting to order the dress.  Although we'd all love to be those cute ladies who gain nothing but a little bump and then return to our fabulous pre-baby body within 6 weeks of delivery, sorry to say that most of us aren't blessed like that.  (If your sister doesn't understand, she's in for a rude awakening some day  lol)

Not only will your boobs and belly be growing (and really, who knows how much they'll have shrunk 3 months postpartum) - but keep in mind that everything from your hips and hands to feet and hair could also be changing.  I'm lucky and I can fit into my pre-pg shoes despite my legs and feet swelling up like balloons with DS, but I still cannot comfortably wear my wedding ring.  

Call the store and talk with the sales lady.  Ask about waiting until you're closer to 6 months along.  And see if they offer rush orders

GL! 

uspoilme

Exactly what cvl105 said.  I would just call the saleslady up and ask the for the drop dead order by date.  Then, I would promise my baby sister that I would order the dress by that date. Pinky swear on it and make the conversation as light as possible.  Remember how stressed we were when we were brides?  I'm sure it's just as bad as the stress we feel now as preggo women. 

earl&pearl

Chances are that your boobs will still be two cup sizes bigger three months after birth. I would order the dress now, and just get one size up. My best friend is getting married in October and I got measured for her wedding just this last weekend and ordered my dress to make her life easier. I really wasn't too stressed out about it. Yes, I am 5 months pregnant, but I understand she wants to order them earlier for 'just in case' and to also allow enough time for alterations. So, I obliged. I know if that was me, I would hope my bridesmaids would do the same thing. 

EMLYNNLERETTE

Thanks everyone for your replies.  I think the best answer that is considerate of my sister and my ever changing body is to wait until at least 6 months before the baby is here.  Seriously, between last week and this week my boobs literally grew a cup!

msb07

I will be in a wedding this spring.  One of the bridesmaids is giving birth next month (will be 1 1/2 mo. post delivery) and I will be about 7 1/2 months pregnant the day of the wedding, so the bridal store had fun with our measurements.  Most places we looked into suggested going up 2 sizes from your norm and allowing time for alterations to be done (sucks but doesn't seem to be any better way).  My concern about your dress being ordered later (assuming her other bridesmaids are ordering now) is that the dye lot won't be the same which would mean your dress wouldn't match when placed beside the others. hope this helps.