vent (fyi I was so upset I think I posted this on the adoption board) LONG

caitdana

For those who dont know me. I had 27 week twin girls. At 34 weeks we moved to another local hospital that specializes in nicu surgeries so that Ella could have a cardiac cath and angioplasty. They took both girls so I would not have to travel to 2 different hospitals. We have been at the new hospital for 2.5 weeks. Everyone said give it a week and we will get settled in. First week was awful because Ella had her angioplasty and it was just stress and worry and new faces and new policies. The second week The let my family in the NICU without me present and without them being on the approved list, this was no big deal because I knew about it and it was my family, but the kicker was they let my brother hold Sophia. No one but DH and I have held the girls. I would have prefered my mother, MIL, FIL, Step MIL or my dad to hold the girls first and it was hard for someone hold my precious angels for the first time especially without my permission. It just made me frantic that he snuck back there and his first time even being at the hospital he got back and held her.  I again just let it go because no harm was done.

 So again things were starting to calm down and then they asked me if it was okay since Sophia was probably going home in two days if they moved her to a different NICU down the hall so we could room in and they needed the space. I said I really did not want to but it if it was going to keep a sick baby from being able to come then okay. So Sophia was moved to a completely different building in the hospital. They have different Dr's in this unit so when we first moved they evaluated her and the Dr had the wrong chart at first, so she went back and got another one. She began to ask me questions about her sister and had again gotten the wrong baby's folder. Long story short we were getting ready to take cpr and do car seat tests and such and she had a brady spell last night and now has delayed her stay another 5 wonderful days.  To make matters worse I have gotten a head cold with a 101 fever. The fever broke but I am not allowed in the NICU until tomorrow, which I know is best for the girls. So, being the first time I have had to go a day without seeing them in 61 days, I am having a hard dealing with it. So I call, I try to pace myself to every few hours (usually after care time). But I have to call 2 seperate places, wait for 2 seperate nurses who it seems like no  matter when I call are always caring for someone else's baby and are unable to come to the phone.

So, If this is not bad enough already I went back to Ella's room after Sophia had moved and they had already moved in another family. It is a twin room. It is just a little bigger than a single room. I dont have room to even put a rocker beside Ella bed. I just seperated my girls for the first time and I have some strange man washing his hands in Ella's sink 2 ft from her bed. I just need a moment to myself and I have no privacy. They had also changed the girls to the same care time. I cannot be in 2 buildings on a large college/hospital campus at the same time. So, I requested to have them put back together since Sophia is staying several more days. They told me no. I cried and asked if we could be moved back to our old hospital which we loved and they finally agreed to put the girls back together. So long story short Sophia is no longer coming home tomorrow as expected and l look like a jerk for having them move other babies around.

tSquared1987

wow what a crappy day! I feel for you Mommy. *hugs* I hope tomorrow is a better day

taggiecb

let it out, keeping in the anger won't help.  All you need to worry about is your babies, and what is best for your family.  I am sorry you are going through with this, and telling you someday it will be over, doesn't help.  I hope for you the sooner the better

Skylarv217

I'm so sorry for all of this. I don't think they should have moved your daughter in the first place. That's too much to put you though. If it were just a few days they could have ridden it out. Don't feel like a jerk. It's better for your girls to be together, so that they are both able to have the care time with their mother. 

I hope things get better soon ! 

At1stsight

Oh wow, hon, that's a WHOLE lot of stress they've put on you that they had no right to. DH is a pedi and he is appalled that they asked her to move out of the NICU before she was going home. They should never separate twins like that unless one's going home. In his hospital, they have twins right now that are in Level 3 and one's ready to move to Level 2. Well they won't move him until his sister's ready to go too, and Level 2 is just down the hall from Level 3, not even a separate building. I'm so so sorry you're going through this. I really hope she's home in 5 days :hugs: Hang in there.

happyhoopla

I'm a NICU RN and it just shocks me that they would even consider seperating your girls. If both are stable, try asking them to cobed your girls, which would keep them together and open up space for another baby.

caitdana

Thanks ladies. It makes me feel better to know that I am not crazy and I did the right thing begging them to put the girls back together. We LOVED the NICU we were at but had to move for Ella so I am trying to make the best of it. It is supposed to be an awesome hospital but I am just disappointed at the way we are being treated. I feel like we are being punished because one baby is doing better than the other. They will not co-bed the girls. The neonatologist had recently decided to "outlaw" cobedding whereas we had that as a major milestone for us at our previous hospital. They are 61 days old and we still not had a photo of all 4 of us. I just dont know how to make things easier and better for us besides sitting by their bed 24/7 (and that is not allowed) so I am just screwed until she is well enough for me to come home where I call all the shots.