want to start TTC but im scared to have another loss

Vane5/06

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Now I have a 11month but in my first trimester i had spotting every now and then pretty scary. My husband and I would like to start trying again, but i am scared. Any one else out there feel the same way?

fireflies0306

I am in total agreement--I have two DDs, but I am so scared to try again.  yesterday we really thought that i was ready--looking at baby stuff yesterday and falling in love with it.  but when i think about actually putting the effort forward and to FWP, I am so terrified!  I don't know, I am hoping that maybe the hope for the future will overpower the fear in me!  GL

stephsteph77

I know I am!  I loved the blissful ignorance I lived in while pg with my daughter.  Now that I know things can and do go wrong, even to me, even when you are supposedly "safe" in the 2nd trimester...  I'm terrified to try again.  Just a couple days ago I posted how excited I was to actually start ttcing this cycle, but now I've almost talked myself out of it simply out of fear of failing again.

PolyMama2Be

TTC time is getting closer for me again too, but I'm really scared. Scared of seeing a lot of BFNs and equally scared of a BFP and then stressing myself out worrying about another loss. It sucks!!!

MrsAtch

I think for anyone that has lost a baby it's always in the back of your mind. I've had two pregnancies and no take home babies and although it wont stop us from trying it scares the ever-loving-poo out of me. I made it through loss number one without having a breakdown, and losing our second baby really knocked me for a loop. I desperately want our take home baby but I can't help but be fearful. I think it's relatively normal to be scared, but I have to have faith that it will happen for us eventually. My mom had three miscarriages and three live births, so I know it's possible. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for all of us this year. Very best of luck to you.

ccansdale

PolyMama2Be:

TTC time is getting closer for me again too, but I'm really scared. Scared of seeing a lot of BFNs and equally scared of a BFP and then stressing myself out worrying about another loss. It sucks!!!

I totally agree! Getting a BFP would put me over-the-moon happy... but then i'd be terrified and stressed about losing it again.

I just keep telling myself, all i can do is try!

Vane5/06

i agree with everyone.. Even after my first trimester i was constantly worried! My husband keep telling me to just enjoy the pregnancy but it was hard i didnt feel like it was ok till my DS was finally in my arms! and then all the sad stories you hear while your pregnant of fellow bumpies that lost there babies in 1st 2nd or even 3rd trimester made me worry even more. All we can do is Try but its hard when you finally get pregnant cause your constantly wishing that this will be a sticky baby

ewilliams1127

With my first pregnancy I was blissfully ignorant to the possibilities of a loss.  My DH talked me into looking at the first pregnancy as an optimist because by nature I am a pessimist.  If you prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome, when it doesn't happen you are relieved.  If it does happen you are prepared.  I was in no way prepared for what happened.  Next time (God willing) I will be cautiously optimistic but I know I will not rest easy until that baby is in my arms!

smalltowngirl99

In the same boat over here.. I have 2 children and have had 2 miscarriages, I am remarried and MH doesn't have any children of his own, we just lost our LO in November and AF should be here anytime.. we have the go ahead from the dr but im just so scared.. but I think that even in a year i'm going to be scared. I remember with my first 2 pregnancies I was so naive.. my DD is in dance and her teacher is pg and she runs around and hops around and in my head im just thinking what is SHE thinking, doesnt she know she might hurt something. Im total paranoia now! I hope that when it happens for you that you find peace and you may enjoy your pg as much as you can