I haven't really talked about the whole situation in a while so thought I'd update. M is meeting with an attorney on Tuesday. I meet with mine next Monday. We're just going for legal advice, but are hoping to do this entire thing completely uncontested. We've already agreed on a lot of things regarding our money, his financial support to me and N, the house (I'm staying here, but he will help me sell it ASAP), and custody of N (he will visit N 2 nights a week and will keep him EOW). Most of the time I am okay with everything, but every now and then I break down--get angry, embarrassed, upset, resentful...the list goes on. The worse part is feeling like a failure as a wife and mom--like I couldn't give M and N what they need. I know that I'll get through with all of my support here and IRL. It just effing sucks right now. On the upside, I have all of my new furniture ordered, new bedding and mattress...and am ready to start fresh.
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Re: a little update on me
I am so proud of you, Cora. You seem to be handling everything so well. I can imagine some days would be harder than others.
Just remember we are here for you. (((hugs)))
Cora I am proud of you for being so strong and showing N that you are a great Mom. I think I might have missed a ton about the entire situation and why this happening since I believe it took place when my M broke his leg/got hurt. Why are you divorcing? Was it something he asked for? Sorry to bring up old hat, I just couldn't figure it out.
Much Love & Hugs!
I couldn't have said it better myself
Missing our sweet Angeline. BFP #1: 7.12.09 / EDD: 3.15.10 / Missed Miscarriage: 8.14.10
BFP #2: 3.16.10 / EDD: 11.28.12 / Collin Rex born 12.1.10
TTC#2: May 2012
BFP #3: 7.5.12 / CP 7.12.12
BFP #4: 1.28.12 / EDD: 10.11.13
betas: 10dpo: 91 / 14dpo: 493 / first u/s: 3.4.13
First of all, (((((HUGE HUGS)))))
You are in NO way a failure, I think you are an amazing strong woman who I am proud to call my friend!
Huge hugs to you. I don't blame you for being angry and you are not a failure. You did everything possible. You are such a strong mom to Nicholas.
What she said! I admire your strength for both N and yourself. You are an incredible person Cora, and I hope someday I am lucky enough to know you IRL.
I completely agree. You seem very calm and collected about the whole thing but I know it has to be hard. Just remember that this isn't your fault and that you are a great mother. We are here for you ::hugs::.
You are stronger than you even know. You are an awesome Mother and do not feel like a failure as a wife. It takes two people to make it work and it seems like he checked out a while ago.
Take each emotion as it comes... there is no wrong way to feel right now.
::hugs::
Thanks for the update. We love hearing from you.
You are not a failure as a mother or wife. It's so incredibly hard. Sometimes I wonder how everyone else makes it look so easy. KWIM?
Hugs!
Surgery for ectopic pregnancy June 3, 2008
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BFP #2 September 25, 2008
Baby boy born June 4, 2009 at 40 weeks
8 pounds 13 ounces and 23 inches
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BFP #3 February 6, 2011
First U/S February 25, 2011 = TWINS!!!
Boy/girl twins born October 4, 2011
((HUGS)) We are all very proud of you girl!! Not only are you doing what's best for you and N, but you're also setting a wonderful example for N of grace under fire. You are showing him that it's the love Mom and Dad have for him that's important (even if Dad is acting like a total DB).... not living together or material things. And also that you have to have self-respect and make yourself a priority. These are HUGE things.
I'd say you're pretty much a super Mom!!
BFP #2 - 12/9/09 After being on bedrest for 10 weeks due to TTTS and hospital bedrest for 4 weeks due to PPROM, my sticky babies are here! Born at 32 weeks!!