CP: Would you rather...

CashewsMommy

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Pachita

I don't think I can answer that question.....maybe I die first....I don't know. I'll be heartbroken if I have to be a widow.  Then again, my DH would be devastated too...so.....that is a really tough question.

emeraudecephiro

I would rather die first, but I would probably die either way. Or become a crazy cat lady and end up on Animal Hoarders.

Rawr08

Believe it or not DH and I talk about this all the time.  I always wanted to die first since I can not imagine living without him.  BUT the more we talk about it, I said I would let him die first.  I would not want him to have to suffer a loss like that.  So the deal was made, he can die first.

(Yes this is a real conversation, yes we are a little unconventional)

jen629

After how close I came to this a few months ago I would totally want to go first

EricaK28

I think this is a tough question. I would not want to be a widow it would be difficult to loose my DH. Though I would not want my DH to be alone I think that would be hard for him.

johnnys june

Rawr08:

Believe it or not DH and I talk about this all the time.  I always wanted to die first since I can not imagine living without him.  BUT the more we talk about it, I said I would let him die first.  I would not want him to have to suffer a loss like that.  So the deal was made, he can die first.

(Yes this is a real conversation, yes we are a little unconventional)

THIS!  And ditto!  DH and I talk about it all the time as well.  DH pretty much TOLD me he was going to die first b/c he wasn't going to live without me and because "manual labor" is going to kill him early.  *rolls eyes*....still a tough question though 

millejj1

DH and I haven't talked about this before, but I don't know that I could really pick either way.

lotus88

I say DH first. I'm 29. My parents are 64 and 55. My little sister is 6.  I'm really more like a second mom for her than a sister. We have no other close family. It would be better for her, especially given all the other things she already has to deal with being adopted, if I were around longer. More stability that way. .

NiNi143

 

 I talk about death more than he does. He rarely gets angry, but that's one thing that p*sses him off!

I'd rather go first just because I have experienced so much death in my life. I know, that's really selfish.

emeraudecephiro

lotus88:

I say DH first. I'm 29. My parents are 64 and 55. My little sister is 6.  I'm really more like a second mom for her than a sister. We have no other close family. It would be better for her, especially given all the other things she already has to deal with being adopted, if I were around longer. More stability that way. .

 My brothers and I have an age difference like that, but with me being the young one

itsmegin

DH and I have talked and we both hate the idea of living without the other.

But considering how jealous I am, I think I would rather he die first than me die and have to watch him dating other women (because I would totally stick around to haunt him and his 20 year old gf ).

rock-elle

hmmmm....how much sooner?

anonomity

Rawr08:

Believe it or not DH and I talk about this all the time.  I always wanted to die first since I can not imagine living without him.  BUT the more we talk about it, I said I would let him die first.  I would not want him to have to suffer a loss like that.  So the deal was made, he can die first.

(Yes this is a real conversation, yes we are a little unconventional)

We have these conversations too.  I think I would rather DH die before me, so he wouldn't have to be the one in pain of losing me.

Good question, Cashew! 

Fallon621

SweetTurnip:

In a perfect world, we would die together in our bed, having lived a full life. Like the notebook without the alzheimers. I know, I am mushy and romantic.

This is exactly how I think!!  LOL Far fetched but like you said in a perfect world! LOVE that movie!

HadleyS

Rawr08:

Believe it or not DH and I talk about this all the time.  I always wanted to die first since I can not imagine living without him.  BUT the more we talk about it, I said I would let him die first.  I would not want him to have to suffer a loss like that.  So the deal was made, he can die first.

(Yes this is a real conversation, yes we are a little unconventional)

This.  My religion teacher in high school actually brought this up and made this point, and I have never forgotten that.  She said that it is just so terrible to have to go through that kind of loss and that the burden is so large on the widow/widower.  Interesting cp, Cashew.  You do a great job of making my mind wander away from baby stuff, thank you!