Parenting after a Loss

Is this a phase?

DD has become super clingy these days.  We use to be able to put her down in her playroom and walk away to get stuff done around the house and she would play for 20 minutes or so and be fine (obvisously we would check on her every few minutes but the room is pretty baby proof).

Now if we put her in there we are lucky if she will play for 5 minutes.  She almost immediately crawls to the baby gate, pulls herself up, and starts crying until we come pick her up.  Im worried she is starting to learn that all she has to do is cry and we come running over and pick her up.  I know she is still a baby so maybe I shouldnt worry about that yet?

Im just wondering if this is a phase, since she has a TON of seperation anxiety, or if my running to her everytime she cries is teaching her to do it.  Help please!



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Re: Is this a phase?

  • Yes, usually around 9ish months they are super clingy... hopefully it passes soon!
  • I think it is a phase because in the last few weeks DD has been so clingy. As in, clingy like a little monkey that climbs all over me when I try to put her down.  I figure it should be over in a few more weeks hopefully!
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  • Yes, definitely a normal phase. DS is like this too. As they become more mobile they become more independent, but that makes them feel a little nervous and want to cling to you more. It can be exhausting at times... but on the other hand it is a chance to hold your "baby" a lot right before they become toddlers! :)

    I think it's fine to respond to this clingy behavior by picking up & holding. I try to give DS attention when he needs it and usually this helps him do more independent play. On days when I am too busy to give him the attention he needs it actually gets worse and he will want to be held practically the whole day. 

  • We've been dealing with the same thing. It was a few weeks of bad and now it's just once in a while. Hoping it passes soon for you too.
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  • We've been dealing with this too.  DD just started really walking well the past 2 days and she hasn't been as clingy but she freaks out if she can't see me.
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