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My EDD week...ugggh

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Wow, I really was not expecting a whole week of me feeling crazy. I thought that maybe next weekend would be tough bc it was my estimated due date but I have been crying and yelling at my family all this weekend too. I even dug up the "stuff" I bought for a baby so I could cry over it. I must want to feel this way. For those of you who have passed through this tough time...any advice?

DS Born 10/05/99 DSS Born 7/11/95 BFP 05/11/10 - Missed M/C, D&C 06/23/10 BFP 8/3/2010 - Ectopic, Methotrexate 8/17/10 BFP 1/27/11- Please God let this heart beat strong. Beta1 17dpo-314 Beta2 20dpo-883 Beta3 22dpo-1861 Beta4 25dpo-5918 DS2 Born 10/07/99 "I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he shall be given over to the LORD." 1Sam1v24to28.
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  • noah-bearnoah-bear member

    I passed both of my dates, and strangely, the days after and before were the worst for me. 

    My anniversary of my m/c was the hardest for me. It was Christmas Eve, but I think it was also because my 2nd EDD was Dec1.

    Try to take a bit of time for yourself. Maybe go see a movie alone, go hang out at a coffee house and read, go shopping, etc. Something that you can do just for you.

    *hugs* EDD's are hard and hopefully your family will understand. 

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  • Runnergirl2242Runnergirl2242 member
    imagenoah-bear:

    I passed both of my dates, and strangely, the days after and before were the worst for me. 

    My anniversary of my m/c was the hardest for me. It was Christmas Eve, but I think it was also because my 2nd EDD was Dec1.

    Try to take a bit of time for yourself. Maybe go see a movie alone, go hang out at a coffee house and read, go shopping, etc. Something that you can do just for you.

    *hugs* EDD's are hard and hopefully your family will understand. 

    Thanks! That is good advice. I am sorry for your pain too. I had no idea how painful this was going to be. I am going to take your advice and do some things for myself. I appreciate your response.

    DS Born 10/05/99 DSS Born 7/11/95 BFP 05/11/10 - Missed M/C, D&C 06/23/10 BFP 8/3/2010 - Ectopic, Methotrexate 8/17/10 BFP 1/27/11- Please God let this heart beat strong. Beta1 17dpo-314 Beta2 20dpo-883 Beta3 22dpo-1861 Beta4 25dpo-5918 DS2 Born 10/07/99 "I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he shall be given over to the LORD." 1Sam1v24to28.
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  • rock-ellerock-elle member

    I can understand how it could be cathartic to dig up all of the old baby stuff.  For me, I had to stay as distracted as I could and I made it very clear to DH that he was going to have to be as nice as he could to me that day :)

    We ended up going on vaca coincidentally the week after so I could stay distracted planning that and looking forward to that and DH sent me flowers at work :)

     

     

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  • Deepak&DerekDeepak&Derek member
    I am sorry about your EDD week.  I am dreading the same thing.  I am already trying to make plans for that week, so I can be distracted.  Hugs to you.
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  • cutebride73cutebride73 member

    I have passed 2 of my 3 EDD's.  For the first two, which were 5 weeks apart, I was very aware the entire time of how far along I was, each milestone that should have been.  For my first EDD we had been away for the weekend, which was very distracting.  We were driving back home on my EDD (a Sunday) and ended up getting into a huge fight - I think the stress just took over. 

    That Friday after was pregnancy and infant loss remembrance day and that next Sunday was DH's cousins baby shower - it was a bad week for me, I was very, very emotional. 

    For my 2nd EDD in November I was not as bad - hysterics wise.  It was still very, very hard and at that point I had just found out I was pregnant again (Oct. 31st) and had another c/p.  I think I was sort of in shock and denial when that day came around.  Like I just couldn't believe my life at that point. 

    Afterwards I kind of had a turning point, like I just decided to focus on the future and we had a plan with my RE, so I knew exactly what was coming in the next couple of months.  That helped me.  Time helps.  It really does.  It will never go away, but passing that date made things better for me. 

    ((((hugs)))) 

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  • PachitaPachita member
    I haven't passed my date yet, but just wanted to give you some big hugs.

    BFP#1: 7/14/10.  EDD: 3/19/11--MMC-- D&C 9/2/10.
    BFP#2: 12:22/10.EDD: 8/30/11 C/P 12/25/10
    BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby!                                                                                                                                           BFP #4:  2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15                                                                                                                                                                                      BFP #5:  4/5/15   EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)

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  • Izabella22Izabella22 member
    *HUGS* I'm so sorry, it is hard to come up on those milestones. Honestly, the buildup to the date was worse than my EDD but I also made it clear to my DH that it was going to be rough for me from the get go, I took the day off from work, slept in, went shopping, got a pedi, watched movies and just had lots of me time. I also kind of had the expectation that I was going to feel awful that day, so when it came it didn't sting as bad as I thought it would. But the days leading up to it I was miserable, just being so aware of all the "supposed to be's". Lean on us and just be gentle with yourself.
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  • haziedazehaziedaze member
    Have reached this milestone yet but wanted to send big ((HUGS)) your way...
    BFP#1 9/14/10 (EDD 5/21/11); no fetal pole 6w6d, 7w4d, d&c 10/8
    BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
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  • julieb1218julieb1218 member
    I haven't reached mine yet but I just wanted to say I am so so sorry. This all just sucks ((hugs))
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  • julesjbjulesjb member
    I'm so sorry. Mine is coming up next month and I'm already having a hard time with the milestones. I am painfully aware how far along I should be with each pregnancy actually. I was reading your siggy and it looks like we have had somewhat similar journeys this past year. Many ((hugs)) and support during this week and please lean when you need too!
    BFP #1 6/18/10 Saw HB 7/15/10 Missed M/C 8/17/10 @ 12 weeks 2 days- 2 D&C's( 8/20 and 8/26) BFP#2 11/21/10 Nonviable at 5wks, possible ectopic. Methotrexate 12/3/10&12/9/10 BFP#3 3/10/11 Beta@12dpo 39 Beta@14dpo 160! 21 DPO 2439 HB at 7wks 127 EDD 11/17/11
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    (((Hugs))) I think the anticipation of the date itself was the worst.  I tried to keep as busy as I could on the actual date and I made it through.  It was hard.  I'll be thinking of you this week. 
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  • Runnergirl2242Runnergirl2242 member
    Thank you ladies for your hugs and support. You are an amazing group of women. I can say that although this is tough and no one ever wishes it, I am honored to be a part of such a compassionate and caring group. I thank you all for your advice and support.
    DS Born 10/05/99 DSS Born 7/11/95 BFP 05/11/10 - Missed M/C, D&C 06/23/10 BFP 8/3/2010 - Ectopic, Methotrexate 8/17/10 BFP 1/27/11- Please God let this heart beat strong. Beta1 17dpo-314 Beta2 20dpo-883 Beta3 22dpo-1861 Beta4 25dpo-5918 DS2 Born 10/07/99 "I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he shall be given over to the LORD." 1Sam1v24to28.
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  • clausekaclauseka member
    So sorry.  ((Hugs to You)) I agree with a lot of the ladies here.  The build up to that day was tougher than the day itself, but it still was an incredibly sad time.  I didn't want to feel sad, but I did and I also feel like I purposely did things to remember that pain, but more for an outlet to get it out.  Sometimes you just need a good cry and a bit of time to wallow in the sadness.  Then, I spent the rest of the day being kind to myself and spending time alone to relax.  DH understood and gave me my space for a bit.
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  • Junebug060609Junebug060609 member
    I don't have any advice as I'm not to my EDD yet, but I wanted to offer you (((hugs))). 

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  • psumel13psumel13
    ((HUGS)) hoping you get your take home baby in 2011!
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  • MommyandKateMommyandKate
    I'm really sorry- I hope you feel better.
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    ::hugs:: GL getting through your EDD.
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  • linz85linz85 member
    EDD's and the time surrounding it really suck. I'm sorry. BIG HUGS!
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  • opalloveropallover
    I just wanted to give you a hug. (((hug)))
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  • itsmeginitsmegin
    I am sorry you're going through this. My EDD is on the 18th and I'm already counting down and getting upset. Doesn't help that AF is coming. So I'm sorry I haven't been through it so I have no advice but I wanted to say I hope it gets better for you soon!
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  • TapatioTapatio
    I'm so sorry you're having a hard time with your EDD. I felt the exact same way with my most recent one. I cried a river that day. I'm sending you ((big hugs)). We're all here for you :)
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  • Fififa21Fififa21 member
    I?m sorry. Sending you big hug for this week!

    BFP #1 4/22/10 MC 5/5/10 (6w4d) EDD 12/25/10
    BFP #2 10/19/10 CP 10/27/10 (4w6d) EDD 6/30/11
    BFP #3 5/10/11 Lucas Abelardo born 12/29/11 at 37w3d
    BFP #4 12/10/12 MMC 1/14/13 (9w3d) D&C 1/15/13 EDD 8/16/13 

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