Parenting after a Loss

Creepy lurker or member?

Did anyone see this post on 12-24?

It seems to me that most of the B&E crap came out on the private FB board...

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/47486436.aspx

Re: Creepy lurker or member?

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  • imageGem17:
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  • It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.
  • imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

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  • imagecour10e:

    imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

    Link? 

  • I'm not trying to start crap, but MC/PL, TTCAL, SAL, PAL, in my time, have never had AEs.  Not once.  This particular AE seems to know about PAL and has posted on PAL.  No other AE has.  What does that tell you?

    Edit: SAL is the same as PgAL

  • I hate that AE. I think the person who uses it has nothing better to do with their time. I don't think or at least hope that it's not someone from here. Hopefully, it's a lurker.
  • imageLucky428:

    I'm not trying to start crap, but MC/PL, TTCAL, SAL, PAL, in my time, have never had AEs.  Not once.  This particular AE seems to know about PAL and has posted on PAL.  No other AE has.  What does that tell you?

    Edit: SAL is the same as PgAL

    Are you kidding? Just looking at the threads on the front page I can see several AEs. The loss boards are not immune to drama, which should be pretty obvious right now with the B&E nonsense.
    ***** TTCAL/Forever Buddy to Cour10e******
    -m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
    Beautiful daughter born February 2011
    image
    **Ultimate TTCALer 2009**

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    I'm not trying to start crap, but MC/PL, TTCAL, SAL, PAL, in my time, have never had AEs.  Not once.  This particular AE seems to know about PAL and has posted on PAL.  No other AE has.  What does that tell you?

    Edit: SAL is the same as PgAL

    Are you kidding? Just looking at the threads on the front page I can see several AEs. The loss boards are not immune to drama, which should be pretty obvious right now with the B&E nonsense.

    There are very recent AEs due to the B&E drama.  We KNOW they are one of us due to the PAL off board.  Maleficent has posted here... long before this drama.  

    ETA: The funny AEs are obvious.  But this AE?  Do you know who this is?  

  • imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    I'm not trying to start crap, but MC/PL, TTCAL, SAL, PAL, in my time, have never had AEs.  Not once.  This particular AE seems to know about PAL and has posted on PAL.  No other AE has.  What does that tell you?

    Edit: SAL is the same as PgAL

    Are you kidding? Just looking at the threads on the front page I can see several AEs. The loss boards are not immune to drama, which should be pretty obvious right now with the B&E nonsense.

     I agree. There was a time on MC/PL where there was major drama and an AE was bothering one of the ladies because she had a picture of her deceased baby in her siggy. The PAL private board came about because of drama and lurkers. As nice as it would be for the loss boards to be drama and AE free, it's just not the case.

  • imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:

    imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

    Link? 

    Nevermind, I was thinking of another post from November, not related to B&E.

     

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  • imageHoleyStory:
    imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    I'm not trying to start crap, but MC/PL, TTCAL, SAL, PAL, in my time, have never had AEs.  Not once.  This particular AE seems to know about PAL and has posted on PAL.  No other AE has.  What does that tell you?

    Edit: SAL is the same as PgAL

    Are you kidding? Just looking at the threads on the front page I can see several AEs. The loss boards are not immune to drama, which should be pretty obvious right now with the B&E nonsense.

     I agree. There was a time on MC/PL where there was major drama and an AE was bothering one of the ladies because she had a picture of her deceased baby in her siggy. The PAL private board came about because of drama and lurkers. As nice as it would be for the loss boards to be drama and AE free, it's just not the case.

    This AE has targeted PAL and posted here more than once.  Who does that unless they are a PALer? 

  • And since I've been on PAL....ummm...15 months there have NOT been AEs causing drama.

    ETA: The B&E knowledge is odd. 

  • imagecour10e:
    imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:

    imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

    Link? 

    Nevermind, I was thinking of another post from November, not related to B&E.

     

    You mean how she posted here about me? 

  • imageHoleyStory:
    imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    I'm not trying to start crap, but MC/PL, TTCAL, SAL, PAL, in my time, have never had AEs.  Not once.  This particular AE seems to know about PAL and has posted on PAL.  No other AE has.  What does that tell you?

    Edit: SAL is the same as PgAL

    Are you kidding? Just looking at the threads on the front page I can see several AEs. The loss boards are not immune to drama, which should be pretty obvious right now with the B&E nonsense.

     I agree. There was a time on MC/PL where there was major drama and an AE was bothering one of the ladies because she had a picture of her deceased baby in her siggy. The PAL private board came about because of drama and lurkers. As nice as it would be for the loss boards to be drama and AE free, it's just not the case.

    Ohhh, that's right. I moved from MC/PL over to TTCAL when that happened. Gemini or something was her sn.

     

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  • imageLucky428:

    And since I've been on PAL....ummm...15 months there have NOT been AEs causing drama.

    ETA: The B&E knowledge is odd. 

    Lots of the bec drama has been talked about on the board. If you read that manny post it's a pretty good recap of it all. You don't have to be on fb to know what's going on.
    ***** TTCAL/Forever Buddy to Cour10e******
    -m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
    Beautiful daughter born February 2011
    image
    **Ultimate TTCALer 2009**

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:
    imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:

    imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

    Link? 

    Nevermind, I was thinking of another post from November, not related to B&E.

     

    You mean how she posted here about me? 

    To be honest, yes. That's where I recognize the SN from. Sorry.

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  • I've only ever seen that AE on 9-12 and 12-24. Never here. I'm sure you're right though. They targeted PAL?


  • imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    And since I've been on PAL....ummm...15 months there have NOT been AEs causing drama.

    ETA: The B&E knowledge is odd. 

    Lots of the bec drama has been talked about on the board. If you read that manny post it's a pretty good recap of it all. You don't have to be on fb to know what's going on.

    That's fine.  I have a lot of evidence that shows this poster is a PALer, one in particular.  That's why I left the FB group. I am 99% sure.  I won't say who it is so don't ask because I would hate to accuse someone in the off chance that I'm wrong. 

    This person has targeted me, so I've been watching what has been said both in posts on TB and FB and something struck a chord that was said in the FB group.  It was enough to make me leave.  

    This person has chosen to attack me on a devastating diagnosis.  I can't begin to explain what it's like to live with seizures, so I won't try. There are a few Bumpies who know how terrible it is...

    Chances are, you're all safe since she particularly hates me. 

    I love PAL.  I don't know how I would have gotten through this all.  Being PgAL was so terrifying.  I will NEVER forget the support of MelissaAB, Cora, Vanessa, Blueyedgirl, Mikki, Nikki, and more. 

    These are my girls and I love them to pieces.  But something rubs me the wrong way about this particular AE.  If you want to say I'm bitter because this AE targeted me, well YAM targeted me also and it turned out to be Courtney&Jason who was never a PALer. 

     

  • imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:
    imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:

    imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

    Link? 

    Nevermind, I was thinking of another post from November, not related to B&E.

     

    You mean how she posted here about me? 

    That's just creepy. I see why you deleted people from your Facebook account. Get a life people. Do you think it's someone you know? That's why I switched names ultimately. I didn't want people following my posts during my pregnancy with DD.

  • imageHoleyStory:
    imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:
    imageLucky428:
    imagecour10e:

    imageLucky428:
    It seems suspicious how an AE knows about the B&E drama when most of it did not take place on The Bump. That makes me think it's a member or a creepy lurker.  Either way, it's weird.

    I believe that AE posted here not long ago regarding the drama.

    Link? 

    Nevermind, I was thinking of another post from November, not related to B&E.

     

    You mean how she posted here about me? 

    That's just creepy. I see why you deleted people from your Facebook account. Get a life people. Do you think it's someone you know? That's why I switched names ultimately. I didn't want people following my posts during my pregnancy with DD.

    I don't want any more drama.  I 99% know who Maleficent is.  I don't want to cause drama and so I'm staying out of it. 

    (And no, I refuse to say who I am almost certain it is.)

    Right now, I'm extremely concerned about the FB PALers who might remember my full name. 

    Edit to clarify -- there is only one FB PALer who might remember my name that makes me concerned.... everyone else is awesome. 

  • imageLucky428:
    imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    And since I've been on PAL....ummm...15 months there have NOT been AEs causing drama.

    ETA: The B&E knowledge is odd. 

    Lots of the bec drama has been talked about on the board. If you read that manny post it's a pretty good recap of it all. You don't have to be on fb to know what's going on.

    That's fine.  I have a lot of evidence that shows this poster is a PALer, one in particular.  That's why I left the FB group. I am 99% sure.  I won't say who it is so don't ask because I would hate to accuse someone in the off chance that I'm wrong. 

    This person has targeted me, so I've been watching what has been said both in posts on TB and FB and something struck a chord that was said in the FB group.  It was enough to make me leave.  

    This person has chosen to attack me on a devastating diagnosis.  I can't begin to explain what it's like to live with seizures, so I won't try. There are a few Bumpies who know how terrible it is...

    Chances are, you're all safe since she particularly hates me. 

    I love PAL.  I don't know how I would have gotten through this all.  Being PgAL was so terrifying.  I will NEVER forget the support of MelissaAB, Cora, Vanessa, Blueyedgirl, Mikki, Nikki, and more. 

    These are my girls and I love them to pieces.  But something rubs me the wrong way about this particular AE.  If you want to say I'm bitter because this AE targeted me, well YAM targeted me also and it turned out to be Courtney&Jason who was never a PALer. 

    You should tell an admin for the group. They can check into it. We don't want anyone else being attacked. You have to protect yourself. I hesitated joining the group because of people knowing my name. I didn't even think to make an account just for Bump stuff like RTWG. 

    You're not bitter. She shouldn't have attacked you. You have a disease that is difficult to live with. My cousin has seizures but has them under control with meds. Sadly, those meds make it so she can't try for children yet with her husband. It's so sad to see her play with my kids and know that she can't have her own until who knows when. 

    Edited: Saw your other post. I'm not trying to pressure you into telling anyone. I understand where you are coming from.

  • imageHoleyStory:
    imageLucky428:
    imageMrs.EmmaLouise:
    imageLucky428:

    And since I've been on PAL....ummm...15 months there have NOT been AEs causing drama.

    ETA: The B&E knowledge is odd. 

    Lots of the bec drama has been talked about on the board. If you read that manny post it's a pretty good recap of it all. You don't have to be on fb to know what's going on.

    That's fine.  I have a lot of evidence that shows this poster is a PALer, one in particular.  That's why I left the FB group. I am 99% sure.  I won't say who it is so don't ask because I would hate to accuse someone in the off chance that I'm wrong. 

    This person has targeted me, so I've been watching what has been said both in posts on TB and FB and something struck a chord that was said in the FB group.  It was enough to make me leave.  

    This person has chosen to attack me on a devastating diagnosis.  I can't begin to explain what it's like to live with seizures, so I won't try. There are a few Bumpies who know how terrible it is...

    Chances are, you're all safe since she particularly hates me. 

    I love PAL.  I don't know how I would have gotten through this all.  Being PgAL was so terrifying.  I will NEVER forget the support of MelissaAB, Cora, Vanessa, Blueyedgirl, Mikki, Nikki, and more. 

    These are my girls and I love them to pieces.  But something rubs me the wrong way about this particular AE.  If you want to say I'm bitter because this AE targeted me, well YAM targeted me also and it turned out to be Courtney&Jason who was never a PALer. 

    You should tell an admin for the group. They can check into it. We don't want anyone else being attacked. You have to protect yourself. I hesitated joining the group because of people knowing my name. I didn't even think to make an account just for Bump stuff like RTWG. 

    You're not bitter. She shouldn't have attacked you. You have a disease that is difficult to live with. My cousin has seizures but has them under control with meds. Sadly, those meds make it so she can't try for children yet with her husband. It's so sad to see her play with my kids and know that she can't have her own until who knows when. 

    I asked a favor of an admin member, but I'm not going to start a big witch hunt on PAL.  

    I know enough to know that something has stemmed from that group, but these are still an amazing group of women.  AMAZING group of women. One sour grape does not spoil the bunch.  I consider Blueyedgirl a very close friend even though she lives too far away.  I'm not going to start some crazy thing. 

    I just put 2 and 2 together, and that's why I left. 

    I'm done with this all now.  I want to maintain a level of privacy, and the members I kept on FB have proven themselves to be mindful of privacy since we have all been friends for over a year now.  They are the women I absolutely trust because they have proven it.  They are friends and I love them dearly.

  • If you stop posting, we'll miss you and those adorable pictures of your son :)

    I'm thinking of you and hope that you continue to get better. Take care of yourself and your family.

  • Thank you, but I won't be posting any more pictures of my son.   I do not feel comfortable any more after this.  I thought I trusted this whole group but no, not anymore.

    I will not put him at risk.  No more pictures...

    I love practicing photography and taking pictures of Jack, but I will save that for the off board where I feel secure because it is strongly regulated and is a pay site.

    ETA: I never felt threatened by the women in my "group" from TTCAL, SAL and PAL.  It is truly  crushing that one bad apple has to ruin it for everyone.   You girls know who you are.  We all had babies together.  We were all friends and I love you all deeply.

  • imageLucky428:

    Thank you, but I won't be posting any more pictures of my son.   I do not feel comfortable any more after this.  I thought I trusted this whole group but no, not anymore.

    I will not put him at risk.  No more pictures...

    I love practicing photography and taking pictures of Jack, but I will save that for the off board where I feel secure because it is strongly regulated and is a pay site.

    ETA: I never felt threatened by the women in my "group" from TTCAL, SAL and PAL.  It is truly  crushing that one bad apple has to ruin it for everyone.   You girls know who you are.  We all had babies together.  We were all friends and I love you all deeply.

    Understandable. I know what you mean about being able to trust people. I sent a story with my PMs. Your pictures are really good, by the way :)

    I was bummed when most of the photo board moved from the Bump. There were so many good people over there. I loved seeing if any of those people lived in my area so I could get some pictures done. All the good ones live in Texas and Cali. Too far for me LOL.

  • imageHoleyStory:
    imageLucky428:

    Thank you, but I won't be posting any more pictures of my son.   I do not feel comfortable any more after this.  I thought I trusted this whole group but no, not anymore.

    I will not put him at risk.  No more pictures...

    I love practicing photography and taking pictures of Jack, but I will save that for the off board where I feel secure because it is strongly regulated and is a pay site.

    ETA: I never felt threatened by the women in my "group" from TTCAL, SAL and PAL.  It is truly  crushing that one bad apple has to ruin it for everyone.   You girls know who you are.  We all had babies together.  We were all friends and I love you all deeply.

    Understandable. I know what you mean about being able to trust people. I sent a story with my PMs. Your pictures are really good, by the way :)

    I was bummed when most of the photo board moved from the Bump. There were so many good people over there. I loved seeing if any of those people lived in my area so I could get some pictures done. All the good ones live in Texas and Cali. Too far for me LOL.


    The private board is private for good reason.  TB is too public and has rules that don't work in the photography realm.   New members need to sponsored and the best way to accomplish that is to become an active member on TB photography board.


  • I think that is the best way to work it, honestly. A private board I belong to checks with people to make sure that someone knows who wants in and that person is responsible for the new person. Just trying to keep certain things off here. We do talk about Bump things just not on the Bump :)
  • Well... I've never been more confused than I am now...  I won't be posting any more pics on here, only on SPN...

     When it comes to the internet, it's better safe than sorry, and there are too many creepers...  think I'll stick to SPN as my only off-board.

  • I'm actually about to do the same. It's probably for the best. I think I'll also do a facebook sweep.
  • I'm sorry you're going through this :( We'll miss you here if you leave!

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