Question for those who know the sex...

LollyBug18

...or plan to. We're still team green for the time being and DH is trying to convince me to find out. He's most likely going to win that argument but then a new debate arose: I want to wait to announce it to everyone until later on (like after a shower or the birth) and he doesn't get it. My two big reasons for this is that I think it'd be fun to have that secret to just the two of us for awhile, something special just in our little family, and secondly, because I honestly don't want a ton of gender-specific clothes/blankets as gifts.He has no "good" reason for wanting to share right away, "just because", he says, lol.

But anyway, while that discussion continues, I've been wondering how many people announced the sex to everyone right away or if anyone is keeping it a secret for some time like I'd like to do. Also, are you announcing your name choice? Why or why not? (Maybe I can build my case against DH...)

MommaA117

we immediately blabbed the news.

DuckDuckGoose123

We haven't found out yet (appt is on the 14th), but plan to announce the sex right away.  Re: name choices, I think we're going to hold out for a while.  We picked names ages ago but I really don't want to hear people's feedback, so I think we might keep them a secret for a while.  Not sure if we'll wait to announce at birth or just announce a month or two before, like my bro and SIL did (that minimized input from people, too, because they had firmly decided at that point).

KelXoXo

We shared the sex and the name, because we were so excited, we wanted everyone to know.  And, I really like when people use her name.  Its so nice to talk about "when Guinevere arrives" as opposed to "when the baby arrives"  

karypetersen

We had our tech seal the sex in an envelope (without us knowing what it was) and we immediately took it to a cake baker. We waited 4 whole days to cut the cake with our family and friends on Christmas eve to see the blue icing on the inside! It was fun to be surprised with everyone else, and not just told in a doctors office! And the videos and pictures of our reactions are priceless! We also had already written our girl name on the bottom of all the pink plates and our boy name on the bottom of all the blue, so once we saw blue we asked everyone with blue plates to turn theirs over to find out his name!

This may not help you make a case against your husband though! lol

emorymule

We told sex immediately, but we're keeping the name a secret until she's born

cvl105

We announced yesterday via text/phone calls while we were still in the Drs office waiting to see the Dr after the u/s.  We couldn't wait to share the news.

To me, there's no point in keeping it a secret just to have a secret between the two of you. I don't get that at all, but that's just me.  I can understand you wanting to wait till the shower so that you don't receive tons of gender specific items though.

We'll also be telling people the names we like.  We may not even narrow it down to one name until the baby is born.  Right now we have two names we like and more could pop up.  We share them with whoever asks...and sometimes those who don't! haha  I'm not worried about other people's opinions. If we like it enough, it won't bother us.  And if people have a good reason to not like the name, I would want to hear it in case it's something I didn't think of and wouldn't want my child to be made fun of, etc.

In general, we're not secretive/private people...so that's probably why we're sharing everything.  To each their own!

amyvan317

Right now, we are about 50/50 on finding out.  Our next ultrasound is next Friday and we are still debating it.

IF we do decide to find out, it will be our secret.  We have been telling people all along we weren't, so we would just keep that lie going.  We figured we didn't tell people we were pregnant for 3 months, this would just be a little longer than that.

Mostly we would not tell because we do not want all the gender specific clothes that seems to come with finding out at a shower before baby arrives.

bt3701

emorymule:

We told sex immediately, but we're keeping the name a secret until she's born

Same thing for us. Mostly because DH wants to keep the name a surprise, I'd be fine with telling. By the time we knew it was a girl, I had already told some people what my top choice was for a girl anyway.... 

ShangriLaRose

We are finding out... and will be telling family first, and then friends. We're sending our parents "new baby" flowers, with the gender appropriate colors in the bouquets. Once they arrive, and we hear back... it's a free for all.

Have not decided on name announcements right away or not. We are VERY FIRM on our decisions. The names are staying as they are. But DH's family is so judgmental and opinionated, they'll argue it to death if they don't like it... and we just don't want to hear it, like we did last time... for MONTHS. But we're still thinking about it. 

klv

We should be able to find out at the U/S next Friday.  If so,  I will likely call my mom within the hour. And my Dad, and sister, and friends.  My work is dying to know as well.  I am fine with sharing. I have also made it clear that in the event that it is a girl, I hate pink.  Hate it.  So bring on gender specific gifts, but I dont want my house to look like the pink fairy vomited all over.

My view is that if you choose to find out, and are planning to decorate for one gender or another then there is no reason not to share right away.  The sex is not going to change, and its nothing like waiting to tell people that you are pregnant.