Vent: my mother is so childish!!!

Mskharis

She has not been up to the hospital yet. Reason? Cause i didnt call her until after my son was born. This time around i wanted it to be just me and my dh. She was there for my first two kids. So i told dh i would call her after he was born cause she would want to rush to the hospital. And i didnt call her to tell her i was in labor because if i would have told her not to come that would have been another issue. So right after he came my gf texted me and i told her i was in labor and she said she was on the way and hung up. By the time she got there he was born. So i had dh call her and tell her he was here. She went off! About why was she called after the fact and why was my gf there and this was her first grandson. Ok its my first son! its not about you. Well long story short she basically just said "Well Congrats and don't call me for the rest of the week. Don't send me no photos. Don't call me." and then hung up. I just am blown. She has not called today. And if she's waiting for me to call hell will freeze over! Who's mother acts like that? I am so pissed with her I'm ready to tell her she will never see him. She did cal back and apologize but still felt hurt that she want there the birth. She still didn't want to visit. At this point I don't know what to do. If u got this far ur good!

steve&heather

Wow...I wouldn't be in any hurry to call her either. Send photos to everyone but her, make sure everyone else has an update. Let her call you and don't let her guilt you or go off on you about this--she's being an idiot.

mrsandrews07

Wow, I am so sorry. I would be SO hurt if I were you. I understand why she is upset but she had no right to say the things she did...that is extremely hurtful. I guess if she really doesnt want you to call or send pics then don't. I would wait for her to call and then tell her that you would really love for her to come meet her grandson. I hope things calm down soon...you need your rest and this stress is not good for healing PP. It will get better. Keep us posted. HUGS

str8ota

Ugh, I'm sorry!  Some people need to learn it's not always about them.

My MIL is the only GP and DH is her only child, Brin is now 19 weeks old and she still has not come down to see her (she lives 5 hours away), even when Brin was in the NICU for 7 weeks.  People need to learn it's about what's best for LO and the parents.

MrsB0701

I am so sorry. I understand why she might be upset but that is still very immature and horrible for a parent to say to their child. Hopefully she'll see her mistake soon.

racer88

Wow. I don't even know what to say to that. I'm sorry hun. she should respect the fact that you wanted it to be you and your DH this time...

Jessicamz

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this right after having a baby!  I can see why she might be upset, but she didn't need to say such hurtful things.  Hopefully everything will resolve itself soon!

Gem17

Awwww!  I'm so sorry that this is happening for you now.  You should be able to enjoy these days, not dread them.  I can't begin to understand why people can be so selfish.  DH and I were alone in the delivery room, and I'm glad my family understood why we wanted it to be just us.  When my mom was PG with my sister and then me 2 yrs later, my grandma didn't even come to visit her at all!  And this was after it took my mom 9 yrs to get PG!!!  I'm sorry.  Enjoy this time with your family!