BIG DH vent :-(

Ehoff33

I should start this vent by saying I hardly ever complain about my DH...he really is *most* of the time an amazing husband and father.....

We got in a huge fight tonight over NOTHING! Of course that is how it usually is. We dont fight very often but when we do he gets mean :-(

It started with our trip last week to NYC. We were suppose to go out to dinner just the two of us and also he was suppose to get me my nice Christmas present while we were there... Well his family caused some drama and pretty much put DH is a bad mood the whole trip, so, me, DD and DS suffered because of it. He never wanted to do anything and always complained about being tired. We never did our dinner because he "forgot" and also didnt get me anything. (I got him some small stuff for him to open on Christmas day like a new nice wallet with pictures of all of us in it, two nice sweaters and the big gift was Blazer vs Heat basketball tickets for this sunday....he is a huge LeBron fan! He got me nothing :-(

So fast-forward to tonight (we leave for Vegas tomorrow for a work trip for me and my parents are going as well).... I made a simple reminder for DH to pack his trunks because he always forgets. He just responded with a "no". And I say "no?" and then he says "yes Ill just forget them so no" I then say "oh come on it will be fun to use the hot tub one night ;-)" and then he just says "thats lame and who would watch the kids anyway?" I then say "my parents would love to watch the kids in the hotel, besides how were you planning on going out at night to see all of Vegas?" (He has never been) Then he says "well I just thought you would watch them and I would go out"  I could keep telling all that was said but basically I had the attitude of ummm no I want to go out in the evening too and some times we can take the kids with us and one night my parents would love to watch them. 

It escaladed because I brought up how he was such a downer on the NYC trip and I would like to have some fun alone time with him and he could make up the dinner and gift to me in Vegas...he called me a nagging biitch! I couldnt believe that came out of his mouth! I was just shocked...I gave him probably a pretty sad/dissapointed face because he just looked down and wouldnt even look at me. He said he doesnt want to go on the trip so I told him thats fine...he seemed so shocked and said "how will you take care of them and do what you need to do for work?" I said " My sister will love to come to Vegas and watch her niece and nephew so you can stay home and play xbox for all I care!"

I then walked upstairs finished packing, cleaned the kitchen and finished all the laundry...also my sister is SOOOO excited to go to Vegas...I just told her I will let her know for sure tomorrow morning because who knows if DH will apologize and end up going...

UUGGHHH I am so upset right now and I am really getting tired of his negative and difficult attitude about everything right now!!!  

ok sorry vent over 

hopingwaiting

Ugh, sorry hon.  I hope his attitude changes soon and he goes back to his usual self.  I don't know what gets into them sometimes.

alsbablon

Sorry about your fight, and sorry he called you that (I learned quick fast and in a hurry that the b word shall not exist in my vocab from my mum).

Hopefully he comes around before the trip, if not I hope you enjoy Vegas with your family....I'm still waiting for my chance to go.

Addicted2thenot

Sorry he is being an A$$! Sounds like you handled it well. I hope that he comes around. You are lucky that your family can be there for you. Try to enjoybthe trip with or without him

Staribeth

That's terrible! I am sorry he's being such a jerk. Has there ever been a big breakdown in communication before? It seems like both of your expectations for these trips are not being met, which can be so frustrating for the both of you.

TravelinMama

wow, so sorry. I hope he apologizes and changes his attitude.

tiffanylaw06

Wow. I hope at the least he apologizes. If he doesn't agree to go, I hope you have a wonderful time with your family.

ringer10

I'm really sorry.  I hope you guys make up soon.

On a side note, I hate lebron & so does Akron.

pepomntpat

Ugh!  I'm sorry. This must be jerky husband week.

KelleyBean

I hope you get an apology this morning along with a major attitude adjustment. Have fun in Vegas. I love it there!

kellieok

Oh hun, I am so sorry your DH is being a big butthead right now. I swear men can be so freaking stupid. I really hope he gets his shiet together and goes on the trip so that way you can have some quality time with him. He needs to take his head out of his @ss and take you to dinner and buy you something nice!!!