2 gut punches (a vent...kinda long)

shoefreak85

The first gut punch came from my sweet mother who has been very encouraging through this entire chapter in my life.  A little bit of background...my oldest brother and his ex got divorced when my two nieces were very young.  He is in the military, so their mother has custody.  My mom rarely gets to see them.  My older brother and his wife are having some problems, and my dad mentioned that he hoped that they didn't get a divorce. My older brother and SIL have a daughter who is almost two.  My mom was just frustrated and she said, "Am I ever going to get a grandchild that I can be an active part of their life?" 

I wanted to cry, but instead I said, "Maybe one day when I adopt..."

She said, "Are you giving up hope already?"

I said, "Well it sounds like you have given up hope."  Then she wanted to go on about testing and medicines and procedures that other people have told her about.  Blah, Blah, Blah...

The second gut punch came from the counselor at church.  DH and I are the volunteer Children's Ministers, and the pastor's wife was talking to me about childcare on Wednesday nights.  I told her that I was not going to get involved because I teach all day and then tutor at-risk kids for 3 hours after that, so that was enough time with children for the day. (Obviously, I meant other people's children!)  The counselor was eavesdropping, and said, "Wait...I thought you were having one?"

OMG!  He knows about our loss.  Tears welled up in my eyes and I began to shake.  I tried to laugh it off as my pastor's wife quickly changed the subject.  

I feel so deflated after those comments.  If you have read this entire post, you deserve a gold star!  I really just needed to write it out.

TeacherVicky

(((Hugs)))

KaitySueWho

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clauseka

((Hugs to You)).  I don't mind the long vent - Sometimes you just have to get it all out there!

Gilgenbach2007

((hugs))  Sometimes it's just the smallest comments that make us feel the worst, how is that?  Luckily his wife knew to change the subject.

EJ711

I'm sorry for that, hopefully venting makes you feel a little bit better. 

kelliandjustin

I'm sorry.   Let it all out - thats what we're here for!

cutebride73

((((hugs))))  I am so sorry you had to listen to those comments.  Even if they didn't mean to upset you, it still hurts. 

LilMaggs

*huge hugs*  I'm so sorry you had to put up with that. 

Tapatio

I'm sorry you had a rough day. Feel free to vent all you want ((big hugs)).

SarahCee

vent away. I'm sorry, it's always when you least expect it POW! something comes outta nowehere.

tew213

((HUGS))

npilcher506

Yuck. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Vent away girl!! Thats why we are here!!

SheriBT

((((hugs))))

haziedaze

I'm so sorry. It sounds like the worst part was that they came from 2 people you respect and feel close too... the people you hope will be even more sensitive and careful. ((BIG HUGS))

shanna82

Oh hon ((hugs))  I hate days like that.

hbarbour

Ugh. It's like a scab that just keeps getting ripped off. So sorry my dear. I hope venting helped.

katiebug2004

I am so sorry. I hate it when it comes out of nowhere like that. Big hugs.

MommyandKate

What a crummy day- I hope it gets better.

mizdiz444

(((HUGS)))

cookie_queen

((hugs)) I'm sorry.