Infertility

Came Out to My Bosses...

Since it looks like I will be on track to start IVF in Feb/March I decided it was time to just come out and tell my bosses about our situation. I wanted to make sure to give them plenty of notice because my job is not one where if I don't come in my work just waits for me. They actually have to find someone to fill in for me and there are only 4 other people who can do my job right now.

I have two guys that are my bosses, one that does the schedule and one that signs the checks. They were both very cool about it and said I shouldn't worry about it at all, they will make it work no matter how short staffed we are (and we are really really short staffed right now). My boss that does the schedule even said that he would personally come in for me anytime I needed (he is one of the four) which means a lot to me. Apparently his wife even got PG off of Clomid for their second. It was kinda funny because he asked if I had tried that yet, and I just nodded and said yup, 7 times. He kinda looked stunned at that.

So that is one more thing off my shoulders. It feels good getting all my ducks in a row to start this thing. 

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Re: Came Out to My Bosses...

  • Glad it went well!

    I know the feeling of relief...I've had to be very open with my boss about all of our treatments and, looking back, I can't imagine what it would be like if I hadn't told her...

    TTC #1 since June 2008 *SAIFW*

    TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs

  • Good for you! Go Beading Lady!!
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    Good for you, hon! I know it must feel so wonderful to have that little bit of stress off your shoulders now.

    And funny how your boss asked if you'd tried Clomid yet. I had someone say something similar when I first started TTC....I had done a couple rounds of clomid and femara and had moved on to injectibles, and this lady I know said I should just try clomid- that she took it once and got knocked up. Um, thanks. Tried it. Failed. I will follow my doctor's advice now.

    Good luck, hon! 

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  • I'm so glad they were supportive of your situation.   Yeah!
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  • I am sure it's a huge weight off your shoulder. I am glad they were understanding. And too funny you said yep 7 times. I mean it's great he "gets" it, but I hate when people are like oh, try clomid, or I knew someone who took clomid. When you get as far as IVF clomid is like a distant dream. I actually skipped that totally, but it still bothers me everyone thinks they were IF or knew someone who had IF and clomid was the miracle drug.

    BUT, good for you for coming out!!

    PAIF and SAIF Always Welcome!
    TTC since 2007
    6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
    IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
    IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
    Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.
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  • Glad that went well! It sounds like they were really supportive! 
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  • What a relief hun! I'm so very glad your bosses are being super cool. IF affects more people than we know.
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  • GREAT NEWS!
    My Story and Blog:
    The Conception Craze

    1/2009- TTTC
    After 7 rounds of clomid and HcG, Three failed IUI's with an ectopic pregnancy, two shots of methotrextate, ER visits, breaks, low (3%) morphology One IVF cycle (lupron, gonal-F) that ended in another ectopic, more methotrexate, A Lap to disconnect both tubes, remove endo and a hydrosalphinx, . . .we are finally expecting TWINS from FET#1!
    1.11. 2011: Beginning FET cycle!
    3.11.11- FET! (DH's birthday!) 2 blasts transfered!
    3.20.11- BETA #1 BFP!!! 272! (9dp5dt)
    3.23.11- BETA #2 1346!!! (12dp5dt)
    4.8.11- U/S #1. . TWINS!!! . . .TWO BOYS!
    9.10.11-My beautiful Boys arrive unexpectedly at 28 weeks, 6 days. imageimage
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  • Glad to hear it went well.  Best of luck with your IVF cycle, and I hope you only need one.
    TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
    IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
    IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
    IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
    Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
    IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
    Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
    Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
    IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
    IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
    ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer :(
    Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
    IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
    IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
    **P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**

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  • That might eliminate some stress - GL!
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  • I'm so glad that went so well for you!
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  • Glad that it went so well!  When I came out to my boss, I deliberately was very vague, & just said that DH & I were doing "some fertility stuff".  She responded, "Clomid, Femara, IUI's, IVF?" My mouth dropped open & I said, "you know the terms!"  Turns out, she got pg w/ her daughter on her 3rd IUI w/ Clomid.  She has been awesome about my appointments - always says, "don't worry about a thing, I know exactly what you're going through".  It definitely takes some of the stress off.
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    TTC #1 since Jan 09
    Jul 2010 - HSG, SA, U/S BW - all clear
    Nov 2010- Mar 2011 - 50mg Clomid, HCG Trigger & IUI 1-4 All BFN
    Apr/May 2011 break
    June 2011 - New RE, New Plan
    July 2011 - Gonal F, Ovidrel & IUI #5
    July 2011 surprise BFP on a break cycle before injects!!! Please let this be it!
    Cautiously expecting our miracle on Feb 25, 2012
  • Im glad that everything went well and that your bosses seem supportive. It is a HUGE sigh of relief, isnt it?

    I'm excited for you!

    For what its worth, my boss is male and so is the HR guy (whom I love and has since retired) but they assisted me with all my paperwork and reassured me to take whatever time I need!

    TTC #2 since June '08

    ~*DD 10.21.07*~

    dx unexplained

    IUI #1-4 BFN

    IVF#1 June 2011 BFN

    IVF#2 Dec 2011

    Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634

    EDD 8/25

    *PAIFW/SAIFW*

  • I'm so glad it went well!  Your bosses sound awesome.  I'm glad at least one thing in all of this was easy!
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