Team green no longer

soontobe05

I had a serious talk with my DH this weekend about finding out the sex. I have wanted to be team green since I got pregnant since I found out last time and then a lot of stuff happened and I felt like all surprises of pregnancy were "stolen" from me. Well, he's wanted to find out and been very adamant about it. So we talked about it and he is genuinely afraid he'll have gender disappointment. I know my DH well enough to know when he's making crap up just to get his way, and he's definitely not. He said that since he wants a boy so badly this time (we both really wanted one last time and when she said it was going to be a girl I actually cried and he was really upset too. We hardly talked the rest of the day. We're both VERY happy with our DD, just needed time to adjust to the thought.) he's afraid that if we don't find out and it comes out a girl in delivery that he won't be able to hide his disappointment even though he'll still be happy with another DD. So after a long talk, I've decided that even though it's really going to bum me out, we're going to find out. So on the 28th I'll know if I'm team pink again or blue this time. 

sunset+skies

My DH is the same way - he thinks he'll "need time to adjust".

 On the other hand, I think if I find out now, I'll be disappointed and bummed out for the rest of the pregnancy. I'm more likely to be accepting of whatever gender comes out in the aftermath of childbirth and crazy hormones.

soontobe05

sunset+skies:

My DH is the same way - he thinks he'll "need time to adjust".

 On the other hand, I think if I find out now, I'll be disappointed and bummed out for the rest of the pregnancy. I'm more likely to be accepting of whatever gender comes out in the aftermath of childbirth and crazy hormones.

I seriously would have bet my life on the fact that I was having a boy the first time around and was devastated when I found out it was a girl. It took awhile to get used to, but once I did I was so excited! I'm sure it would be the same for you. Once you get over it and realize how fun planning for whatever you're having is, it's all better. And you form more of a personal bond with it as well because it has more of an identity. I'd really like to still be team green, but as usual, I'm going to take one for the team and give in.  

YouAreMyILoveYou

I'm glad we found out now. It took me literally less than an hour to "get over it" and be excited to be adding another girl to the family. DH was really bummed during the scan, but by the time we got to the car he was fine!

I mean really, we're all just happy to be having another child, right? So, if you have an expectation or a hope and it turns of to be something different, it's ok to be a little upset, but we all know that you will be happy no matter what.

Good luck -- I hope you get your boy!!!  And if not, I'm sure you daughter will love having a little sister to boss around --- mine sure does!!!

 

soontobe05

YouAreMyILoveYou:

Good luck -- I hope you get your boy!!!  And if not, I'm sure you daughter will love having a little sister to boss around --- mine sure does!!!

 

Oh, I don't care either way this time! I'd actually really like another girl. I have soooo many clothing items that are barely worn and a lot of other stuff so it would be a lot cheaper right now. But a boy would be a big change/challenge for me too. So either way I'm happy. DH just really wants a boy. (Don't they all?) 

sunset+skies

I think I know deep down that I would be okay with a girl, but I so want a boy it will be hard to just accept it if it is a girl.

I'm also taking one for the team, and we're going to find out what it is. 

 I have to admit, it will be nice to be able to post "he's doing this" or "she kicked me in the kidney today" instead of trying to avoid calling the baby "it". 

soontobe05

sunset+skies:

I think I know deep down that I would be okay with a girl, but I so want a boy it will be hard to just accept it if it is a girl.

I'm also taking one for the team, and we're going to find out what it is. 

 I have to admit, it will be nice to be able to post "he's doing this" or "she kicked me in the kidney today" instead of trying to avoid calling the baby "it". 

I totally agree! I avoid "it" as much as possible. Seems so wrong to say even though we don't have much choice. I call mine "Muffin" or just "baby". 

LollyBug18

I think I may end up having to take one for the team as well as DH is really wanting to find out. I don't think there would be any gender disappointment, he just really wants to find out and I want him to feel as involved as possible. I have found myself really having to resist the thought that we're having a boy because all it took was one instance of an OWT pointing toward a girl (a baby girl cried when I held her) and I had this moment of deep gloom. It really surprised me and woke me up to the fact that I can't get attached to the thought of a boy or girl until I know for sure. So maybe not being team green won't be so bad?

mesr

i'm not having an ultrasound unless there is an indication that something is wrong, so i will likely remain team green.  dh and i are so madly in love with our daughter that we would both love another girl.  in fact, i don't know what we would do with a boy and wonder how we would react if that's what we have.  i guess that if we did have a boy, we'd end up madly in love with him too.

i think though that if i did have an ultrasound, i would have a hard time not finding out the baby's sex.  i would hate having the doctors and technicians know something about my baby that i didn't.  so i really admire you ladies who are able to say "don't tell me!" or even to contemplate it.