When DH is sick...

erpetdoc

...would you get another family member/friend to watch/help out with DD for the day or would you presume that DH can handle it? 

He's been sick for three days now -- a cold with lots of congestion.  And of course, he wouldn't go to the doctor (that's a whole different story).  So, he's been taking Dayquil/Nyquil, and managing, but he sounds miserable.  I work tomorrow from 8-8, and can't be here.  I told him he should call one of our nieces to come over and help.  It's pretty late to call now, obviously, but I'm almost certain that he won't do so tomorrow either. 

What worries me is that DD has ALSO been super fussy for the past 3 days.  I think she's a little congested, but not to the point where she's having trouble breathing.  She screams bloody murder when I try to put saline in her nose and suck it out, so that's a huge fail.  I am almost convinced she's working on a tooth.

I'm thinking that I might call one of my nieces to see if she can check on DD/DH tomorrow...WDYT?  He wouldn't have to know that I called...they sometimes randomly stop by anyway. 

shall923

All of our family and friends are on the other side of the country so if one or both of us were sick we would have to suck it up and take are of her. Is your concern that he might be sleeping to much to care for her?

erpetdoc

shall923:

All of our family and friends are on the other side of the country so if one or both of us were sick we would have to suck it up and take are of her. Is your concern that he might be sleeping to much to care for her?

No, he's been asleep since 9:30, so he'll get plenty of sleep.  If she's really fussy again tomorrow, it can be a lot on one person for 12+ hours.  I realized that when I was on maternity leave, and DH didn't really "get" it.  (He was working nights at the time, and sleeping during the day.  Short of a train plowing into our house, nothing wakes the man up!  So, when she had tough days as a newborn, I'd be in almost tears by the time DH woke up.  Now, he's a SAHD.)  I know that if I didn't feel well, caring for an unhappy baby might be trying. 

My family lives 9 hours away.  My MIL doesn't know about our daughter and hasn't met her (has dementia, lives in a nursing home).  But, my BIL has 9 children, the two oldest of which are mamas themselves, and have offered to help out whenever we need it.  We just try *NOT* to need it because we know they have families of their own. 

lkstor

My hubby would be annoyed if he found out that I had called someone. 

But if there are family members who drop by on occasion I think that would be fine - and like you said - he could probably use the help.

erpetdoc

lkstor:

My hubby would be annoyed if he found out that I had called someone. 

But if there are family members who drop by on occasion I think that would be fine - and like you said - he could probably use the help.

I think I'll check in on him when I'm pumping at some point, and just see how things are going.  If A is super fussy again, then I'll make a phone call and see what some of my nieces are up to in the afternoon.  As it's a holiday, it's a perfectly good cover for why they might stop by randomly.  And our nephew/his wife are supposed to come by anyway this weekend with some deer meat for us. 

I think if he knew that I called someone, he'd be annoyed too, because he would think I don't trust that he's capable.  I *do* think he's capable, but I am worried that she's going to be a handful tomorrow! 

Off to bed I go... up in five hours to start getting ready to go in for the long day.  I know that I'm already expecting a bulldog c-section.