If my daughter actually let me put bows or ponies in her hair, maybe we wouldn't have this problem, but until that day happens I need to get her static hair under control. She doesn't have much hair--it's very fine and thin. I just wash her with aveeno bath soap--anything I can use in her hair to reduce the static. She doesn't really have enough hair for conditioner.
Re: Hair static---make it stop
Our DD also pulls out clips & elastics and her hair is very static-ey. Unfortunately in winter time, it's dry and there's going to be a lot of static. Wet her hair down with a wet comb or brush or spray it a little, then brush. I do put conditioner in DD's hair which does help, just a tiny amount. You could try it, just to see.
Dryer sheets.
I keep them tucked in my bag all winter long. I use them myself too:) Works great, just "wipe" the dryer sheet over your child's hair. The hair smells linen fresh and the static stops!