Would would you do?

aubreysmom1

My SIL is due in May and told me a few weeks ago the name they picked out (its the same for a boy or girl). She may not remember, but it is our boy name. I wouldn't use it for a girl, though. I have a DD, and may not even have a DS next time, but it bothers me so bad that she is going to use the name we picked out for a boy. I know it's so silly, and I can't call "dibs" on a name and it doesn't belong to me, but the name means "Son of ......" (my husband's name) and I have my heart set on it. Would I be way out of line to say something or should I just keep my mouth shut? I would want her to tell me. Looking back I should have just told her that was on our list, too, and see if she even remembered! I would still use the name if it was a friend or distant family member, but they would be cousins with the same name. What would you do?

HarperM

Thing is, there IS a good chance she doesn't remember.

I hate to be the downer but, truth is you may never have a son. And if I knew I was having a boy was told I "couldnt use a name" that I loved because a family member had DIBBS on it.. and then she never ended up having a boy, I'd be mad.

If you were both pregnant and you both knew you were having boys, then I'd say something to her -as long as I was CERTAIN I was forsure going to still use that name that was on our list.

 

But either way, getting a name you love pulled out from under you sucks! Sorry about that.

starlight8323

That sucks! But you seem to have a pretty good grasp on the cardinal rules of baby naming:

1. Nobody owns a name; therefore, nobody can steal "your" name. 

2. She who has a baby first, gets to name a baby first.

3. It's your baby; therefore you get to pick a name you like. 

 

The good news is that someone might hear your sad story, and take a lesson from you.

See ladies, this is why we don't share names until the birth certificate is signed.