Advice needed - Should we give my ex money?
My ex called me earlier this week and I have spent a lot of time thinking & just can't come to a decision. He quit his job 1 month after I filed for child support. (I got 2 payments) His reasoning? "After I pay probation, motercyle insurance and child support I only take home $120 a month and that isn't enough." Right....because having no income is better? Anyways he asked if by the time tax season rolls around if he hasn't found another job yet if I can send him 100$ to get his taxes done. He said he recieved a letter from the child spprt office advising him they will have to garnish his taxes because he is 2 months behind right now. IF we truely will be recieving the money dh & I have no problem paying the $100, but we will send a money order payable to wherever he is going.
The second part of his question was if I could send some of the tax return back to him. He said he thinks his tax return should be about $1500 - 2K and he wants 500$ of it so he can buy his tools since he is suppose to graduate soon & all of his grant money has been going towards paying probation & taking care of his other son. (apparently in the state of FL you have to pay $175/month for your probation) He thinks of it as a win-win. In the courts eyes it looks like he is all paid up & current, we get some money & then he can buy his tools & *hopefully* get a job. IF the tax return really is that amount then I have no problem sending $500 back but dh firmly believes we should keep it and I don't want to start an argument. But if the tax return is only $800 or $1000 then I am not as eager to send him anything.
One more probelm. During our last year together when he filed for unemployment he chose to go tax exempt. As far as I know he hasn't filed a tax return since then. So there is even an chance that we could pay the $100 and not even end up with anything! What are your suggestions?
Re: Advice needed - Should we give my ex money?
its $19.95 to file online with Turbo Tax....so offer $20.
He quit his job to get out of paying his obligations and now is asking you to pay for him b/c it will likely show up if he does not pay taxes! If you pay the $100 realize that you likely will not see any money.
This is a really bad idea - do not give him anything.
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NO, I had it written in the CO that I get to claim ds every year.
My first thought was Turbotax as well. It walks you through step by step for even the 1040 long form so unless his taxes are ridiculously complicated I don't see why he can't use that. He can file his federal taxes for free and it's $30 for state forms, or $20 if he's used Turbotax before. Honestly it's worth it to pay the fee to file state taxes because IMO state taxes are a bigger pain in the butt to do.
I can see why you would want to help him but it looks like he dug himself into this hole. Had he not quit his job to try to get out of paying child support, I would probably feel a little more sympathetic.
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There is no way in hell I would help him! He sounds so much like Ds1 BF. He got himself into this mess and it isn't your job to help get him out.
No freakin' way... it's up to HIM to clean up his own mess.
Maybe he should sell his motorcycle for some cash if he's really that hard up!
Uhm, dude is a doucher. He quit his job to avoid paying child support. What makes you think he won't take your $100, spend it on hookers and blow then tell you he doesn't know why they haven't give you the money?
Well maybe not hookers and blow but alcohol and bar skanks. But you get the picture.
Why do you feel the need to be so nice to him? Dude is making conscious decisions to short change your child. Instead of thinking about giving him money, you should be resisting the urge to junk punch his little biitch ass for having the nerve to ask you for money when he owes your child money.
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HE CAN FILE FOR FREE AT WWW.IRS.GOV AND FOLLOW THE LINKS FOR LOW INCOME FILERS if his income was below the applicable threshhold. (2009 the threshhold was $57,000 for FreeFile.)
It will be active after January 14, 2011 per the website.
If you want to "play nice" why don't you volunteer to "help" do his taxes so you can be sure it gets done and you get your money?
This is fantastic advice! Thanks for sharing, I'll e-mail him this info now.