cancelled shower what to do?!

hmtuthill

Hey Ladies,

I have to cancel my baby shower that is out of town because the doctor isn't allowing me to fly.  I'm so sad, but I know its for the best to keep my little girl safe. I know everyone will understand, but what is the best way to let everyone know that its canceled? The shower was going to be January 22nd. I don't have some of the people e-mail addresses only their mailing addresses. Should I send a card letting them know or should the hostess? I can let most of them know via facebook, but I think thats kind of tacky. What do you all think?

Thanks for any tips! 

stephanie_shoe

I think a personal phone call would be appropriate.  True, this isn't efficient, but it is the best way to reach your guests on an individual level.  Chances are your guests will be disappointed for you, and will appreciate the gesture.

If you don't reach them, just leave them a voicemail telling them you need to speak with them about the shower; don't tell them on vm that it's been cancelled.  Is there a friend/family member or shower hostess that could help you make the calls?

Mrs.B6302007

To me, this falls under hostess responsibility but you and the hostess could split the guest list and call everyone.  That would be the fastest way to spread the word and share the work.

rhubarb123

I agree with the phone calls.  The hostess should be calling all of these people.  Maybe you can post-pone it until after your DD is born.  Don't do facebook since people that were not invited will see most likely and maybe they will wonder why they were not invited.  Who knows...facebook is never a good idea for invites.

mybobofo

So sorry, that just stinks!  I agree with everyone that a phone call is the way to do it.  I would split the list and have the host call people that she personally knows and you call people that only you know.  If it was going to be a large shower, your mom or MIL could help you call family.

RachieTK

A friend had to go on bedrest and her shower had to be canceled.  Her aunts were hosting, so they split up the guest list and called everyone.  They also asked that people call back to confirm they'd gotten the message if messages were left, so nobody missed the change in plans. Sending cards will take too long.

MelleTX

Definitely make personal phone calls yourself. Part of the fun in an OOT shower is to catch up with the people who have not seen you in a while. They will want to talk to you and it will be the right thing to do to spend 5-10 minutes on the phone with them letting them know what is going on with you and the baby. They will want to give their best wishes to you and not the hostess.

And not that getting gifts should be a consideration at all, but I think they will be more likely to send you a gift if they get to talk to you. They will inevitably ask about what to do with any gifts they have already bought, or they will ask what you need.

Make the calls yourself. It's the right thing to do, even if it takes you several evenings to get them all done. You might even enjoy the opportunity to chat one on one with some of your guests. If you think anyone might have made travel arrangements though, call them first.

Temp38995750004016

Bummer! Maybe you can reschedule after DD gets here, I am sure they'd all love to meet her!