Anyone else feel awkward making pregnancy "announcement"?
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DH and I decided we're ready to tell people after our 12 week NT Scan went well yesterday. But, it just feels awkward to "announce" to people in a group setting. Last night, I had a girls' night to celebrate a friend's birthday and figured I might tell everyone then. A couple of the girls are close friends and already know, but 2 or 3 didn't know...we're friends, but not really close. Well, I was the only one who didn't order a drink and then passed my shot to the birthday girl when someone bought everyone shots, so it might be obvious, but I just couldn't bring myself to make the "announcement." I'm very excited, so that's not it, but it just feels awkward to me. Especially with people I'm not that close to. It feels weird to get everyone's attention at the table and be like "Oh, I'm pregnant." I feel the same way about facebook. I kinda feel like I'll call the people I'm really close to and then just let everyone else figure it out. I think I'll just tell my friends and family that they're free to spread the news and that will hopefully take care of it. Anyone else feel awkward about it?
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Yes.
MIL made it a huge announcement at a party Xmas night. And while the reactions where good, it was uncomfortable.
I feel like I'm just running around yelling 'LOOK AT MEEEEE!!'. Don't get me wrong I am SO excited, but it just feels weird. Especially after we told FIL's side and only 2 people seemed to even give a sh!t.
Yes! I'm really dreading telling my boss. I know he'll be happy for me, but I just can't picture how to tell him.
I'm sending out New Years cards next week with "Happy New Year, Love DH, ME & Baby" This will spill the beans to those that I don't call/see often but that I want to find out some way other than FB.
You're not alone.
We're THRILLED about this pregnancy, but the thought of everyone looking at me while we make an announcement just scares me. I had my husband tell people at my ILs xmas party (MIL suggested an announcement and I said NO way.)
It's no big deal, but I understand where you're coming from. Every time we get ready to tell someone my heart starts beating really hard, lol.
That's how I feel too...like I'm trying to draw attention to myself, which I'm not! I bet that was especially awkward when no one even acted like they care. I am definitely thinking of just letting some people figure it out on their own when I am as big as a house. Too many people get pleasure out of knowing other people's business, so I kinda enjoy not giving them the pleasure of knowing all of mine.
Absolutely!! I only have a few people that I really WANT to tell - parents, siblings, grandparents, and best friends. The rest can find out through the grapevine for all I care. I don't like attention - I also feel it's weird to pick up the phone and call random family members (who I never call) just to say I'm pregnant.
For work, I've already decided that I am just going to cop-out and send and email to my team (about 7 people). I plan on the email containing answers to the "common" questions - when I'm due, how I've been feeling, that we're finding out the sex, etc. This way, I only have to say it once at work.
I feel the same way. I told my boss, and the closest co-workers. Slowly telling others at my firm. Its just awkward, cause a lot of them just look at you and say "oh". Like, what did you do that for?
I haven't put anything on FB nor has DH, I think his reasons might be different than mine, but I haven't just becasue I haven't been ready too. I have some friends that are prego or just had a baby, and they waited till like 6 months to post it. So maybe I will just wait as long as I can. The only issue, my few close friends that do know, post things occasionally, that could give it away. (I deleted some of the really obvious ones!!! I told them I haven't told, and this won't be the way I will tell)
I guess I thought people would be more excited than they are...they aren't. I work with a lot of men and a lot of our friends and social network are working professionals that don't want kids. So its awkward.
Oh I love the idea of telling people at work by email. I was the girl who used to break up with people by email in high school and college
.Guess I'm overly non-confrontational. I don't know that I could get away with a work email though...it's a small office and my boss gets so many emails that some get lost in the mix and she nevers sees them. Unfortunately, I don't think I can go that route, but man was I tempted when I read your post. Great idea!
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That is part of the reason I decided to do the picture thing with my friends. I figure DH taking a picture of me with my 4 closest friends at a party and saying "L is pregnant" on the count of 3, is a lot less awkward than making everyone be quiet and saying that.
I feel kind of weird calling my aunts/uncles just to tell them that, but I don't want them finding via FB, and we can only keep our walls locked for just so long.
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I felt like everyone was staring at me as well at family Christmas get togethers! I didnt announce it to everyone but news travels fast in my family.
I told my boss about my pregnancy a few weeks ago. I am a 2nd grade teacher and have a really stern military principal who intimidates me to no end. So after my post observation meeting I decided to throw my pregnancy into the meeting! I ended up crying (i thought he would look down on me since its my first year, and I'm "new" to the school). He was really positive and supportive! He is really understanding as well.... I ended up needing an emergency appointment on the last day of school before break. He called, got me a sub, and made me go home. He told my 2nd grade team to have plans for the sub but that my health was more important than being at school for the assembly and Christmas parties. It wasnt the reaction I expected from him, but I welcomed it!
I am not the only pregnant teacher in my building.... and news traveled fast about both of our pregnancies throughout the building!
OMG This! Plus, DH loves to tell people how cute he thought it was that I was charting and how I knew just when to "get to work". So sweet that he is excited, so embarrassing when he tells people!
For #1 I told my parents while down at my cousin's wedding. The wedding night (towards the end) I told my cousin and bride as we left early since i was so tired. The next night the whole family (2 aunts, 4 cousins and my family) were out to dinner and I had no idea what to say, so I leaned over to my very animated aunt and whispered "I want to tell everyone I'm pregnant but I don't know how" lol. She was shocked and made the announcement for me, which was great.
For work, I had my u/s pics and went to my boss and said "I'm not sure how to say this" and handed the paper to him and he thought it was my 2 weeks notice! hahaha that broke the ice!
For this one I just told a few people at our work xmas party and am letting news spread itself. As for family, I sent out cute xmas cards that announced it for us. And for FB, I don't feel comfortable making a big thing so if people post on my wall fine and it will spread that way.
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This!! When I told my best friend she literally said something along the lines of my DH having great sperm. Ick.
Haha. This exactly. It was awkward at first but It's so nice to be "out".
I really did feel like I was saying "I'm having a baby, you know what DH and I had to do to get this don't you" *wink wink* Or like I was saying "WE HAD UNPROTECTED SEX!!!" LMAO!
Just weird.
I have a big family and news has traveled fast! We were hoping (having asked) that our parents could keep it in until our NT scan in 2 weeks, but I guess they were bursting. I just don't like when my MIL pushes us to tell people. Her thought is, "you don't want them to find out second hand" Honestly, there are some people who I would rather did find out second hand.
But for the people that we do want to tell first hand, we have had a lot of fun with it. Yesterday, our friends' jaws dropped as DH announced over sushi "K won't be eating a lot of fish today because she's pregnant". And with our parents we played a game of hangman...the looks on their faces were priceless.
wow, this is like I'm reading my own story! We had our NT yesterday and everything was fine so I sent out a mass email to all important people because I feel like it's weird to call everyone and say "Hi, I'm pregnant! (But I've got to go cause I gotta call 50 other people)". Then today at work I showed my boss the u/s pic and she pretty much announced it to everyone (pretty humiliating) but at least it's over with now.
P.S. I love your pic of your Boston's, I have 2 also - one which desperately needs to be potty trained before baby gets here (she's 18 months and extremely stubborn)
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wow, this is like I'm reading my own story! We had our NT yesterday and everything was fine so I sent out a mass email to all important people because I feel like it's weird to call everyone and say "Hi, I'm pregnant! (But I've got to go cause I gotta call 50 other people)". Then today at work I showed my boss the u/s pic and she pretty much announced it to everyone (pretty humiliating) but at least it's over with now.
P.S. I love your pic of your Boston's, I have 2 also - one which desperately needs to be potty trained before baby gets here (she's 18 months and extremely stubborn)