Help me figure this out- bedsharing related.

HRMJPC

Background- I used to rock and nurse DD to sleep each night and then put her in her PNP beside my bed. At about 2am, she'd wake up and I would nurse her in bed, where we'd safely bedshare till morning. She'd usually "snack" on and off till we woke up around 9 am- we bedshare in a side-lying position.

Right at the 3 month mark, she's been going through lots of different, say, "phases"- wanting to be put down awake and falling asleep on her own (in her PNP), being the predominant phase.  Over the last few nights, however, this kid wants nothing to do with the PNP. In fact, I believe that I have become her pacifier. In order for both of us to get sleep, we lay in a side-lying position and she literally has to have her mouth on me at all times. My nipples are now sore and my hips are hurting from this position. (Not sure why? But, for whatever reason, my hips get sore from side-lying and it is less tolerable to do it all night long.) 

I have tried several different things to get her to start the night in her PNP. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE bedsharing, but I prefer to have a few hours of sleep alone at times. I have tried giving her a pacifier, even sneaking it into her mouth- SCREAMS. I have tried rocking and nursing in the glider- WIDE awake. I have tried the mobile and seahorse- SCREAMS. I have tried the swing- SCREAMS. Not sure what to do next? I am not sure if this is another phase or what. I am wondering if she's over the swaddle or if she's starting to teethe (which she's showing a few other signs of teething early- poor child) or if she's "figured me out"- haha or if she needs a set, reliable "schedule" through the day.

Any thoughts? I can't be DD's pacifier much longer. There's not enough lanolin in the world. Thanks!

pepomntpat

When I can't figure LO out or I need an hour or two of "non responsible" sleep, I transfer LO to DH.  She seems to like sleeping on his chest with his pinkie in her mouth.  I find it very refreshing and DH gets some bonding time as well.

finsternis

honestly, when dd started this, the absolute only thing that solved it was moving her to her own room. we had planned to at 3 months, then at 3 she clearly wasn't ready, so we were shooting for 6; but by 4 or 5, she was using me as a pacifier all night and waking at every little movement i made. this led to no sleep for her, which is so unhealthy and i worried. so we transitioned to the crib and she happily sttn.

 

a lot of people have the baby start the night in their own room, and then bring them in the bed when they wake; maybe that's an option for you? good luck