UPDATE from Day After Miscarriage

erb911

I thought I should send out a new message because I am surviving...I am doing a lot better.  I really thought I was going to fall in to a deep hole and never return to normalcy this time last week. 

I miscarried on Thursday,12/16...Actually probably on the Saturday or Sunday (12/11-12/12) before but didn't know it at the time. 

The weekend after finding out was terrible and very difficult for my husband and me.  We are lucky to have each other.  I was crying all the time, different things would set me off.  Monday was hard but seemed a little better.  Then Tuesday, 12/21 I had another appointment with another vag ultrasound.  As stated on previous post everything had past and my HCG was down to 265.  (It had been 7000+ on the previous Thursday.) 

I bled until Saturday, 12/25...I am doing a lot better now.  The bleeding just made me miserable, a reminder of the entire ordeal.  Anyway, I go tomorrow to get me levels tested, hopefully I am almost to 0...My doc recommended waiting one cycle before trying again.  My husband wants to try right away; I just don't know if I am ready...I can't imagine going through the pain again.  Thoughts??

But I wanted to tell those of you who feel totally broken with your dreams shattered, you will get better...Not completely but with time you will be OK.  I am sure with more time I will be totally healed physically and emotionally.

Junebug060609

Glad you are doing better.

Regarding the question of when to try again, I'd suggest at the very least waiting until your doctor says its OK.  Beyond that, you'll get to a point where the fear of losing the pregnancy is trumped by the desire to try again and you'll know its the right time for you. 

I can't speak for everyone, but for myself the first time getting my period after the m/c was emotional.  Every twinge, cramp, etc reminded me of the physical side of the m/c.  Not to mention there was a part of me that was ticked that I was even having my period at all.  I'm really glad I didn't have the possibility of a pregnancy mixed in with that.