Room sharing....?

Mrs.Hooper

We made the decision to stay in our 2bd home for a bit longer so I can still be a SAHM when DS#2 comes.  Im just curious how other moms who will have LOs share a room are planning on doing it.

Thanks girls

kabarbanel

We are also in a 2 bedroom house and physically can't sell because of the market. Blah! DS is moving to a toddler bed next month. I want him transitioned before the baby gets here so he doesn't feel like we are kicking him out of his crib or anything. We will have DD in our room with us for a while. I'm thinking til she is only getting up about once a night, or STTN. Honestly not looking forward to that...we kept DS with us for 6 weeks and I couldn't sleep at all. He was/is such a noisy sleeper! I am nervous about them sharing a room, just becuse of them waking e/o up, but I am sure it'll work out. We have no choice. lol

katypresson

We will keep the newborn in our bedroom until he/she is STTN.  Then we will buy DS his own toddler bed and convert the crib back to a crib (it's currently a toddler bed for DS).  His room is small but big enough for a toddler bed, crib, changing table, and glider.  He doesn't play in there so there's no need for him/them to have a HUGE room to share.  Bedrooms are for sleeping IMO. 

This is a main reason I'm really wishing for another boy.  Then it won't be a big deal for them to share a bedroom.  Once DS turns 6 or 7 we could buy them bunk beds (which I'm sure they would love!). 

DesignsOnYou

Are you planning on putting LO #2 in the room right away with LO #1? If so, that would be pretty difficult to me since the newborn would be waking so much.

LO #1 coslept with us until almost 10 months, at that point we easily transitioned her to her own room in her PNP.

Basically, it's not something we'll be worrying about for at least the first 6-9 months since the newborn will be in our room. After that, hopefully their sleep schedules will sync up a bit and neither one will be too much of a disruption to the other one.

Mrs.Hooper

We are keeping DS in his crib till we put DS#2 in the same room.  Were hoping to keep ds2 in our room (he will have a special area on the other side of our room with bassinet and changing area) till about 3 or 4 mo.  Then since ds1 will be more used to his brother and the noises that he makes we will move to same room.  Also I like the crib because it can contain ds1.  

I was also worried about ds1 reverting if we change a bunch of things before baby comes.  like new bed and no more binky?

DesignsOnYou

Mrs.Hooper:

I was also worried about ds1 reverting if we change a bunch of things before baby comes.  like new bed and no more binky?

You still have several months to go so honestly, I would start making whatever changes you think you'll make then right now. I think it would be too much for him all at once.

For example, I purposefully broke her of the paci a few months ago and she was a paci ADDICT. I knew it would only be harder once the new baby came along since they will have a paci. I wanted there to be enough time between the changes.

I was super-worried about it too since she loved it so much but we literally went cold-turkey and never looked back. I couldnl't believe how easy it was.

dragonsmercy

Becky's sleeping in our room until either she's 4 months old, or doesn't want to bedshare anymore (she's SUPPOSED to be sleeping in the bassinet, but with me EBF'ing her right now, bedsharing's a lot easier!). Once we reach that point, she'll be in the nursery with Evelyn in the crib. We're currently transitioning her to the toddler bed, and so far so good. Hopefully by the time Becky's into the nursery, she won't be nursing at night as much, and *knocks wood* won't wake up Evelyn when she does wake up to nurse. By the time Becky's ready for a bed, hopefully we'll have the 3 bedroom house to ourselves and each girl will get their own room for a while. If we stay in this house for a few years, when we're ready to have number 3, the girls will then share the bigger room, and the new baby will get the old room (especially if it's a boy).

penguingrrl

My two share a room and 99% of the time I love it!  They already have started laying awake "talking" after bedtime, which is so cute to listen to lol!  We moved from a 1 br apt to a 2 br shortly before DD2 was born (we're in NYC, so having a 2 br is a luxury lol!).  We moved about 6 weeks before my due date and at that point we moved DD1 from the crib in toddler bed mode to a twin bed.  Then about 2 weeks before I was due we painted the room and set up the crib as a crib to get DD used to the idea of sharing.  Then DD2 slept in our room for about 2-3 months, until we saw that they could sleep through each other's noises.  Now if one sleeps over somewhere the other has trouble sleeping because they're used to sharing the room.

Now that DD2 moved to a toddler bed last week (yay for getting hurt trying to climb out of the crib lol) we keep finding them sharing either the toddler or the twin bed, which is just adorable and makes me really happy!

Periodically we have a really rough night where one won't/can't sleep and keeps the other awake and they feed into each other, but otherwise it works well.  If our next place is a 3 bedroom they'll likely still share so we either have an office or our third child will use it as a nursery (since the third will be further in age we'll likely give him/her their own room to start then may rearrange who shares later).

Mrs.Hooper

DesignsOnYou:

Mrs.Hooper:

I was also worried about ds1 reverting if we change a bunch of things before baby comes.  like new bed and no more binky?

You still have several months to go so honestly, I would start making whatever changes you think you'll make then right now. I think it would be too much for him all at once.

For example, I purposefully broke her of the paci a few months ago and she was a paci ADDICT. I knew it would only be harder once the new baby came along since they will have a paci. I wanted there to be enough time between the changes.

I was super-worried about it too since she loved it so much but we literally went cold-turkey and never looked back. I couldnl't believe how easy it was.

 

Im not too worried about binky...its just a bedtime thing.  Its the toddler bed thing.  Im afraid he will be playing in his room all night since he can "escape" from a toddler bed?

ncbelle

Newbie will be bed sharing with us until at least 1 or so (we did so with kiddo until 15 months) - then they'll share a room.  I think that will be pretty easy at that point since newbie will be at least close to STTN at that point.

ridesbuttons

My kids are a year and a half apart.  Only 2 bedrooms upstairs in the house we lived in when #2 came along.

Baby slept in our bedroom 'til 5 months old or so.  Then he went in with his older brother.

Always tried to put baby to bed first and let him get to sleep.  Big brother put to bed 30-60 minutes after little brother put down.  They really ignored each other during the nights.  It was not a problem at all.