Is a C average to much to ask for?
Valeriam
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THe rule of the house is for the kids to have at least a C's or better. If not, kids lose privileges like ipods, video games, and phones. My step son seems to resent me since I am the main person to inforce this rule and stay on top of grades. He is in 8th grade and has gotten A's in tests at times and then doesn't turn in homework and will show little effort in class (according to his teachers).He is very able and smart. His work ethic is what holds him back. He (like im sure many 13 yr olds) try to get away with doing as little as possible. But grades are too important to slack on. He needs to get ready to go to high school next year. It is one thing to slack on mowing the lawn or dusting (which he does and I try to enforce that one shoud always to the best they can at whatever their doing), but grades directly affect the future.
Am I mean step mom for expecting C's or better?
Re: Is a C average to much to ask for?
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/46662795.aspx
This post and the responses might help you.
No, a C average is not too much to ask for him to earn.
Why are you the one enforcing the rules? Where is his father?
No, C's are not too much to ask, but you don't need to be the one pushing for it.
It's not a house rule if your H is not willing to enforce it-and from your other post, he is not really willing to be an enforcer, and he needs to be. Really he needs to be SS's main enforcer. You should be the wingman/back up, if you will. You and your H need to sit down and talk this over, and most importantly get on the same page about what the rules, expectations and consequences are in your home, and how they will be enforced.
Tell your DH this is not working and you are done playing enforcer. If there is a way to work it into the conversation about him not following through I would ask DH how he will feel if his son fails 8th grade...or 9th, 10th, 11th or 12th?
Thank you