I'm so sorry you are going through this again. None of us should have to experience this once, much less multiple times. I read your post below and can so relate to your "when it rains it pours" comment. I just wanted to reach out to you and let you know that I too lost my Dad (it's been 4 years) and have been through this whole M/C experience. I wanted you to know that if you ever want to talk just page me. Unfortunately, going through these sh!tty experiences does not make the next one any less painful.
::hugs to you:: you and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers.