Possibly dumb bedsharing question

beccs98

I've been co-sleeping with DS since day 1, pretty much. It wasn't planned, but ended up being what worked out for us. Sadly though, DH has been in another bed for almost the whole time, because there just wasn't enough space for all three of us. I'm thinking of getting an Arm's Reach so that I can sleep in the same bed as my husband again as well as keep DS happy.

 That's all just background info though, because my real question is: do you other co-sleeping mamas go to bed at the same time as your LOs? DS's bedtime is around 8-930, and I've just been getting in bed with him at the same time (since he shouldn't be in our bed by himself). But then I lose out on any possible alone time with DH. Or really, any available time at night to get anything done. 

 I feel like there's probably a simple answer for this, but it has escaped me! Thanks.

mrs.baum

At that age, DS wasn't going down for the night until around 10 pm, so that is when I would go to bed with him. He took a "nap" late in the evening either in the PNP in the living room or the swing.

rthackxton

mrs.baum:

At that age, DS wasn't going down for the night until around 10 pm, so that is when I would go to bed with him. He took a "nap" late in the evening either in the PNP in the living room or the swing.

This. I tried forever to get him to take a late nap and now he does at 8ish and gets up around 8:45 and then goes to sleep for the night between 10-10:30. (except tonight. He's sleeping with Daddy!!!)

Edited because I couldn't seem to finish my thoughts.

anderson_moore2008

DD usually starts the night in her crib which is 3 feet from my side of the bed and then if she comes into our bed it is during the night when she gets up for a feed.  I think in a few months we are going to try and transistion her to a floor bed in her own room.  I am just going to get a twin matress and a mesh rail.  I want at least a twin size so that I can go and nurse her in her bed.

coleby914

I nurse DD down and then use the video monitor to keep an eye on her until we come to bed.

HailsLyrics

At that age I would sleep when baby slept. Now that he's older I stay up a little later and that gives me either some time for myself or some time with DH.

HRMJPC

We put DD down in the bed or in the bedside bassinet with a video monitor. I join later. I LOVE bedsharing!

StarlitRN

DD goes to bed around 7pm and I use the video monitor to keep an eye on her! Luckily she isn't really mobile yet! We plan on transitioning her to a floor bed in her room in a few months so I can still lay down with her if needed!

* Have you thought about sidecarring the crib to your bed so your DH could have more room? We were feeling really cramped as well until we did this and now we love the arrangement! Everything is the same height so it is just an extension of our bed.

beccs98

StarlitRN:

* Have you thought about sidecarring the crib to your bed so your DH could have more room? We were feeling really cramped as well until we did this and now we love the arrangement! Everything is the same height so it is just an extension of our bed.

I've been reading about this quite a bit on this board, and love the idea. But I don't think our bedroom could really fit our bed + the crib we have for him (which is currently in his own bedroom). Maybe if the bedsharing continues we would have to invest in a new crib? I don't know. But I'll definitely look into sidecarring more.

beccs98

StarlitRN:

* Have you thought about sidecarring the crib to your bed so your DH could have more room? We were feeling really cramped as well until we did this and now we love the arrangement! Everything is the same height so it is just an extension of our bed.

I've been reading about this quite a bit on this board, and love the idea. But I don't think our bedroom could really fit our bed + the crib we have for him (which is currently in his own bedroom). Maybe if the bedsharing continues we would have to invest in a new crib? I don't know. But I'll definitely look into sidecarring more.