I feel bad for Evelyn (vent)

dragonsmercy

I'd never been away from Evelyn for more than a work-day's worth of hours before this past weekend. And then I was away from her for 2 days when I was in the hospital having Becky. Now all of a sudden, a crapload of my time and focus are on this new lil thing that she's always being told to be careful and gentle with. I try to spend time cuddling with Evelyn, too, and focusing on just her, but with trying to get breastfeeding established, and nap schedules, and constantly going out of the house, it's not been easy. On top of that, she won't come to me any more, unless I'm in the kitchen... and only then because she knows she's getting food from me. If I try to hold her, she struggles to get put down. She'll go up to her dad and ask to be picked up and give him cuddly hugs, and I'll be honest, I'm jealous.

Otherwise, the poor girl is teething, or something, cuz she's pooping up to 6 times a day, and her poor bottom's getting so raw, I'm surprised she's not screaming the second we put her on the change table. We're all slathering on plenty of diaper rash cream whenever we change her.

I'm just not sure if she's jealous of Becky or not... she was really cute earlier today, we were at walmart picking up some groceries, and Becky was crying in the carseat in the cart right behind her, so she turned sideways and held Becky's hand. But other than that, I really don't know what she thinks of her.

roxyrulz512

I know exactly how you feel. Aiden just turned 1 and Carson is a month old. A doesnt get as much attention as he used to obvioulsy b/c im home alone and there are 2 LOs to take care of now so my attention has to be divided. I feel so guilty that i cant do as much as i used to with A and i wonder if he somewhat resents me and/or C. It really does upset me but i just keep telling myself that even though A doesnt understand now he will soon and he'll have a brother/best friend close in age to grow up with.

jessicaclare

The adjustment to another baby is hard for almost all kids, and its especially hard when you can't really explain what is going on. Once you all get settled, you'll get the hang of having two and you'll be able to spend more time with Evelyn. Things will get back to normal. Not to mention, you'll have two girls who will eventually be the best of friends! Hang in there, she won't remember this stage at all. It gets better!

MSUMamaof2

Every mother of 2+ has felt the way you do, Dragons.  Hang in there.  It will get better.  Evelyn probably doesn't know what to think of Becky at this point, so I doubt she's jealous (though that might come later).  Just take the time that you can and spend a little one-on-one with Evvy each day.  I know it's overwhelming now, but it will get easier.  Promise.

JennJim2006

((Hugs)) It is SO HARD in the beginning.  My DS#1 had a really hard time adjusting to his baby brother (and we still have the occasional jealousy/rough time).  Just try to give her one on one time when you can.  It will get better!