Is this rude?

sarcole530

Each year on my dad's side of the family, my aunts and uncles take turns hosting Christmas Eve dinner. This year it is my uncle J's turn. However, he asked my aunt  (his sister) if he could have it at her house instead, because his is small. Sure, I can appreciate that... BUT.. he also had her clean the house, use her dishes and utensils, and had HER call each person in our family to tell them what to bring. I think that's so rude of him to pawn it off on my aunt.

The icing on the cake.. it's the responsibility of the person hosting Christmas Eve dinner to bring the main entree. So what is he bringing? SANDWICHES. Cold cuts. Condiments on the side... with chips.

I think it is just very rude of him to pawn all of his responsibilities off on my aunt, then buy deli meat and Wonder Bread for dinner.

jenna0627

Is he a bachelor by any chance? If so he probably didn't think twice about the responsibility he was pawning off. However, yes it was rude to pretty much pawn it off but hopefully you guys can still enjoy the holiday and make sure you all pitch in to help clean up afterwards.

essey1234

i don't think it's rude to do it her house and get help, but the amount of work that he did compared to her is. he completly pawned the work on her which is unfair. That however is not your call, if your aunt wants to be upset or talk to him then she can. otherwise you shoudl just go, and try to enjoy. even if it is sandwiches.

 

In my opinion, when someone cannot cook sometimes sandwiches are better than dry tsteless or burnt food:)

meg1974

The sandwich part wouldn't bother me that much. Maybe he is having financial problems or doesn't have a lot of time to cook. He could have offered to clean her house for her, and brought paper dishes though. 

shellybell15

I would also like to know if he is a bachelor. It is a little rude, but with that said, I would never give the responsibility of a dinner to my single brother. His house is bigger than mine, so we have used his house before. However, all the women went over and did the cleaning, decorating, and cooking. But that is not something that runs through most mens mind. Is your Aunt upset?

Prinycesa07

A little rude to have her do all the work and not offer to help.

 But, no, I dont think the sandwich part is rude.  Sandwiches are whats for dinner at my aunts house today.  I dont see the need for a big dinner when we will have that tomorrow.

sarcole530

No, he is not a bachelor.

My aunt didn't seem too upset by it, just more annoyed than anything. She kept sighing in the phone when she was talking to me.. ("Uncle J wants you to bring pop. ::sigh:: I don't know, maybe a dessert to? I'm just doing the leg work. ::sigh::)

I just feel bad for my aunt. I totally understand that her house is a lot bigger and I can appreciate his wanting everyone to be more comfortable, but it just bothers me that he isn't offering to clean up or bring plates or anything.

sunnyday016

Yea that's rude, and kind of tacky to bring sandwiches. You can cook something yummy for a crowd for pretty cheap (like a crockpot meal or something).

CalinsBride

Yeah, it's rude. But your aunt didnt have to say yes. I sure wouldn't have. It's his turn--period. And deli meat? Seriously?

ETA: Oh, and I totally disagree that his being a bachelor is an excuse. Men can cook, men can clean. It's so funny to me that in 2010 we still think that bachelors can't host Christmas Eve dinner lol.

 

shellybell15

CalinsBride:

Yeah, it's rude. But your aunt didnt have to say yes. I sure wouldn't have. It's his turn--period. And deli meat? Seriously?

ETA: Oh, and I totally disagree that his being a bachelor is an excuse. Men can cook, men can clean. It's so funny to me that in 2010 we still think that bachelors can't host Christmas Eve dinner lol.

 

It's not that they can't. It's just probably not going to be up to the standards people (at least that I know) hold. I mean if I want my Christmas to be sandwiches, soda, and no Christmas tree, then I will see if my brother will host. But since I would prefer a good meal and fun atmosphere for my son, I hosted. It has nothing to do with what year it is, just that it is not something most men would enjoy doing.