Add this to the "people don't get it" list

lauren9317

I was emailing with a co-worker friend and I mentioned her little 1-year-old. This CW is currently pregnant with her second, due next month, so of course she began writing me all about the pregnancy, her current kid, etc. Fine, whatever. This CW knows I've been trying for over a year and she knows it's all a sore subject for me, but obviously I rise above that and I'm always ok with discussing "kid stuff" with her. But IMO, she crossed the line with what she just wrote me. After sending me a cutesy pic of her kid in a santa hat, to which I replied simply "Aw " she writes back, unprovoked: "She is such a blessing. I want to cry just thinking about it sometimes. When she cries, she looks like me. I love that"

Blech. I didn't respond. I think she should have re-thought that little gem before sending it to me. And to top things off, my period is starting today.

 

illinigal

Hugs.  I hope you get a BFP in early 2011.

cogbot

Uuugh.  So sorry you have to deal with that kind of insensitivity.   

ginogomermisser

That was insensitive. You should've e-mailed her "hopefully, I will get to experience such a blessing too and cry thinking about it". Maybe then she would GET IT!!!!! I understand you are the better person by ending the conversation. Obviously I'm bitter (AF came Tuesday).

Hang in there

lauren9317

ginogomermisser:

That was insensitive. You should've e-mailed her "hopefully, I will get to experience such a blessing too and cry thinking about it". Maybe then she would GET IT!!!!! I understand you are the better person by ending the conversation. Obviously I'm bitter (AF came Tuesday).

Hang in there

Oh I totally thought of writing that exact thing to her!  But I knew that after I hit "send" I'd feel all bitter and mean, so I refrained. It's funny, I didn't care that she might have felt bad, but I did care about how my own guilty feelings would have ruined my day, lol.

jamielynnohio

Ugh! I'm sorry girlie! People can be so inconsiderate... and ignorant lol. Hugs!

ginogomermisser

People have no understanding of IF and how it affects couples, more so women. For this reason alone, my DH and I havent told anyone, not even a single family member. Actually, I take that back. I told my sister almost a year ago and advised her not to tell my elderly parents. She did and went on to say that everyone agrees that I should think about how I would work and raise a baby and that I cant continue my profession as a police officer and have a child because that would be selfish. After I started balling my eyes out, she said "But we would all be happy for you". My DH held me for hours and said please dont discuss anything else with family. Since, we have not!! It makes it difficult to go through alone, however it saves me from hearing "Well you guys are getting older now", "relax, it will happen" and "well Mike[DH] already has two older kids, why do you want to start all over".

You can start your holiday season feeling like the better person and with your head held high. Everyone on this site understands you, more importantly your DH!!! Enjoy your Christmas, maybe we can get a BFP for Valentines Day???!!! Good Luck       

lauren9317

Aw thanks, Merry Christmas to you all too!

butterfly843

Sounds like a coworker I have. I don't mind hearing about her baby once and awhile but she goes into ridiculous detail down to describing poopy diapers and what grandma and grandpa are buying the baby for christmas. She knows about my losses and after talking to her a few times to tone down the constant talk she told me it's unfair that I want her to not discuss every detail about her baby all day. It's not just me who is annoyed by her even employees who aren't dealing with if/loss are tired of hearing all day about her baby.