I know this was probably discussed yesterday after Oprah was on, but I wasn't online and I am still thinking about it. For those of you that didn't catch it, a mother forgot and left her child in the car for 8 hours (in August). Obviously the child died from a heat stroke. I truly feel bad for the mother but I don't understand how you could forget your child. Now that I am a mother, I have a whole new outlook on tragedies like these. I am constantly thinking about her while I am at work and thinking about how she is doing at daycare.
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Re: Discuss: Forgetting baby in car
However, I'm pretty sure I would LEAVE my child in the car for a long time period. I do keep my diaper bag/purse right by her car seat so I could never forget her anyway.
I have been having nightmares about this kind of thing since DS was born. Last night I was so tired in the middle of the night feeding that I woke up in bed a few minutes after I put him down not remembering how I got back to bed or if I put him back in the bassinett.
This scares me to death. I keep trying to slow down and get enough rest.
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I guess people get so caught up in their day that they forget the most important thing in the world.
Yes, it's horrible, but to imply that the people didn't care about their child or didn't consider their children important enough to remember is wrong.
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I don't see how it could happen either because I think of Aidan 24/7! But I haven't gone back to work yet, only have 1 child, and am not that sleep depreived. I don't see myself doing something like that BUT I also have a really hard time judging her after watching her and hearing her story. It's a terrible tragedy, and she's in her own personal hell for the rest of her life.
For those of you who don't buy it, I'm just curious -- do you think she did it on purpose?
I'm so done talking about it now. I couldn't sleep last night because of this.
I feel bad for the lady but yesterday decided to investigate further.
She had left her daughter in the car three time prior and was known to leave her in the car and go into the school to get the other child.
She passed by the window that the baby was next to at least 6 times before going into school for the day. It's on tape.
I think she should have been charged with something. The situation is terrible but I find it hard to have sympathy for the woman.
There was an incident reported a year or two ago about a father doing this as well and the baby died. He was out of his routine and he didn't normally drop the baby off at daycare.
I am a routine person and totally can relate to forgetting to do no-brainer things when I do them out of order or if I do something out of routine. BUT I don't know if I am capable of leaving my children in the car and forgetting them. Of course, I have an almost 3 year old who doesn't shut up so that really does help me.
I can totally see how it can happen when someone is out of their normal routine and super stressed or rushed.
Think about the number of times that you're driving home for work, etc. and you get home and you're like "I don't even remember most of my drive."
It's so. effing. sad.
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yes- there was a link to the local news on lvissers post last night and I started reading about the incident. There were a ton of articles about her.
I agree that people can be on autopilot and it can happen and it's soo tragic. But this woman in particular is a repeat offender and the fact that she stopped to get donuts- then when she got to the school- got out- went to the back of the car and messed with the stuff there- and continued to go back and forth by the window that her child was next to doesn't sit right with me.
After I left work I almost stopped at the daycare to pick him up. SEVERAL times on my way to my appointment I had to remind myself that he was NOT in the car with me because I'm SO used to him being there. That's MY routine. Now if he wasn't with me all the time, say if his dad picked him up instead of me, would I be capable of this. I don't really know, but he's on my mind constantly. Even when DH has him on the rare occasion that I don't. I call to check on him. My gut tells me there is no way I could do this, but I don't know the full story.
Oh, and I would never leave DS in the car just to run in somewhere. As big of a pain the the a$$ as it is, I take him out no matter how small the errand.