NAPR Confronting a friend about a comment

anderson_moore2008

A while back a friend was mentioning a particular product she liked that was hard to get in the UK.  I mentioned there was a shop you could get them at about 30 miles from us and I am almost certain that I said something to the effect of "It is really expensive but if when I am desprate I am willing to pay the price."  I really remeber bringing the price up in one way or another. 

So she emailed me tonight about something else and as an aside metioned they had been to the shop tonight and wish I hadn't told her about it or atleast told her about the prices.  She then mentioned how expensive the stuff was that she wanted and the fact they walked away empty handed.

I emailed back and said I thought I had brought up the expense I was sorry if it was not clear but as I was in the US now I would bring some back for her when I came.  She e-mailed back thank you.

If this had been the only instance of her bring up how much I had paid for something I would write it off but in the past she has commented about the prices of the CD I use to the CD she uses and how the AIO I use would be beyond her price range.  I mentioned at the time the DH would only CD if he could use AIO and while I mainly used the PF I really wanted to CD and over all it was still cheaper than Sposies so it was what worked for us.  Or mentioned certain food items or how/where we food shop.  I could maybe understand these comments if I was complaining about how in debt we were (we are not) or how we were not making ends meet (we are).

I kind of want to send her a note that I feel slightly judged by her comment on what I was will to spend on the item she was looking for but part of me says I am being over sensitive and to get over it.  Any  thoughts?

AliciaCM

I have friends that are the same way... I would leave it alone. I would be concerned that any comment I could come up with would sound like I knew I had more money or more extra spending money than she did...

MellsHells

She sounds self-conscious (maybe a little self pitying). I would let it go, and avoid bringing up money/expensive items at all. Also, if you do want to talk to her about it, don't do it over email. See if she does it sometime when you are actually talking to her, and bring it up then. These things have a way of coming out "wrong" on email.

anderson_moore2008

Thanks guys this was kind of my gut feeling I was just feeling a little raw about it.  Funny thing is I think we have about the same income to work with we just choose different things that are important to us to spend on.  I am proably just being too sensitive.