Rules & Regulations

TheHappy1iNTx

I wonder if there are rules and regulations on baby showers. ok, my first born I had a baby shower then for my daughter it was more of a food thing, a celebration. With my 11 month old we bought everything ourselves. Yes people bought an outfit or socks at the hospital. But now with this baby boy my husband wants to register and have a baby shower only because we've recently gone to baby showers where the parents are already parents and threw themselves showers. Also his 18 year old niece has had 3 baby showers for all her 3 boys and each time shes asked us to buy the babies specific items on her list, so now he feels like its our turn. Im not complaining but they were pretty pricey items. which we didn't mind getting for her first. I don't want to be selfish or seem that way to friends and family. My son is 7 years old and I really didn't save alot of his baby clothes. I kept the cute things. I don't know what to do 

shannonalise

Whatever you decide to do, do not throw your own baby shower. If someone offers to host one for you, that's fantastic, but hosting your own makes you appear gift-grabby and tacky.

Also, (and I don't mean to judge here) you say that your H has an 18 year old niece with three boys? Hosting three showers for herself for each of those boys was incredibly tacky. I would look to her for three examples of what not to do. 

staycee

shannonalise:

Whatever you decide to do, do not throw your own baby shower. If someone offers to host one for you, that's fantastic, but hosting your own makes you appear gift-grabby and tacky.

Also, (and I don't mean to judge here) you say that your H has an 18 year old niece with three boys? Hosting three showers for herself for each of those boys was incredibly tacky. I would look to her for three examples of what not to do. 

not to mention her telling you what specific pricey items to buy.   TACKY.

and I agree - you don't throw your own shower.

MeggieChris

Sorry, I have to agree, throwing your own shower is tacky. My two best friends are throwing my shower and we're focusing on celebrating my upcoming birth and not presents. We're going to have food, fellowship, and a bib decorating contest. I want it stressed that presents are optional, but I've always hated attention and people buying me things makes me uncomfortable.

stahlop

Technically, you're not supposed to throw your own shower.  Most people don't have showers after their first child either, unless it's a second marriage or something and it's the first kid for that new side of the family.

sleepingbeauty825

A baby shower is for the first baby because there is just.so.much stuff that the first baby needs. If you have an 11mo, what do you need? You probably have most of the supplies already. IMO, a need for clothes is your responsibility. Of course if someone offers it, then by all means! But to throw your own second shower is just no beuno.

kristennd

Etiquette aside, which everyone is already covering, you know perfectly well that the niece will have no interest in reciprocating on all the loot she has managed to demand from your husband and that situation isn't the fault of anyone else who would be invited. So although I understand your husband thinking that it's "your turn," he's not going to get what he wants out of a shower regardless. And in the meantime everyone else is offended and you are stressed.

BetchySprout

I have nothing to say here that won't get me flamed, so what I will say is that your 11 month old is cute.