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taggiecb

I have 2 boys 6 and 4.  They were beautiful, big healthy babies.  I was 33 weeks pregnant this past week, and my water broke, and I gave birth at 34 weeks.  I am now thrown into a rollercoster of issues, and emotions that I have never experienced before.  Tonight is my first night home without him, I have no idea what to do, or feel.  I am so torn. 

jcsntms06

First off congratulations on your baby boy. Having to leave my baby behind was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. So I know what your feeling. It does get easier. When you go to visit him and see how much he is growing, etc. Sending thoughts and prayers your way. Please keep us posted.

luvdv8

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Remember, right now you have a whole world of emotions going through you and your hormones are completely out of whack- the NICU really has a way of stirring up those baby blues to a fever pitch. You'll feel better the more informed you stay, so ask lots of questions. Even if they seem stupid or like you should know better because you have two babies at home, if you have a question ask it. You'll feel a lot more proactive in the care of your LO if you feel really informed.

Kate621

Congrats and welcome! I hope your LO has a short and uneventful NICU stay.

At1stsight

Congrats on your baby boy. My discharge day was the worst day of my life. Focus on what you can do: pump, visit as your schedule allows (your other 2 boys will need some attention of course), and take each day at a time. Try to attend rounds (usually happen between 8am and noon in most hospitals) to talk to the attending doctor for your son and ask any and all questions you have. Get involved in his care: you can take his temp, change his diaper, ask to do kangaroo care if he's able, ask about being able to bathe him, etc. The nurses should help you learn when regular care times are (usually 6, 9, 12, etc.) so you can try to schedule your visits where you can do cares. :hugs: Hang in there!