Frusterated at sleep - ?s and any ideas?

dixielane

I'm not sure what to do. My DD is almost 7 months old. We let her sleep in her bed most of the night next to ours but I pull her in bed with me when I go to bed.

Up till now she's always slept 3 hrs at a time, then wakes to eat if shes not in bed with me but goes right back to sleep. When she IS in bed with me, she just eats off and on and never wakes or cries.

We put her to bed at 7:30pm, and lately she wakes every 30 min, sometimes an hour. I have to nurse her back down, or if we KNOW shes not hungry, hubby rocks her. I

Does anyone have any ideas? We've tried a precious planets projector/mobile and she could care less so it doesn't soothe her back to sleep. She HAS to be held when she wakes up. And alot of times, if she knows its not me who picks her up, she cries harder to nurse.

I'm not sure what to think, but if she's in bed with me, she is passed out and content and would sleep all night without making a peep. I want her to sleep better until I come to bed or until I can bring her into bed with me.

What can I do? Sometimes I get so frusterated I want to just let her cry herself to sleep because it seems the only thing that gets her to sleep is us holding her, and then repeating it every hour. And I KNOW shes tired because she will pass smooth out as soon as shes in our arms, and often will go in and out of sleep as she starts to cry.

I don't know how to tell if she is teething or not. I've felt her gums and looked but don't see anything, but thought perhaps discomfort could increase her neediness for me.

celiabwatson

Have you read the no cry sleep solution. It really resonates with how I parent and truly doesn't include any crying. I can't speak to it's effectiveness because we haven't tried yet (ever since I got the book my son has been teething/sick). Does she nap ok? My son often naps fine and it's the nighttime sleep that is challenging, so we started modeling out nighttime parenting after nap time and that has helped.

In terms of knowing if she's teething, the first sign for us is usually excessive drool, and general crankiness. He also gets a runny nose and tends to put more stuff in his mouth than before. Also, he doesn't eat much food when teething, just nurses often. 

beau2ful

My 10 month old has been doing this for a month now. Her's is teething though. I don't really have any suggestions except I know how you feel. a few weeks ago my LO was waking up every 45 mins all night long. We bedshare full time but it was still so hard. Try to remember it's just a phase it will pass. that's what I do.

Kestrel84

DS is a couple weeks younger than your LO but we JUST got through a similar phase.  DS woke every forty minutes all.night.long for about a month.  I was pulling my hair out, trying new things.  The only thing that would get him back to sleep was nursing and sometimes even that didn't work.  Just when I was at the end of my rope, he suddenly started sleeping MUCH better.  His sleep changed overnight.  He still wakes a few times in the beginning of the night but he goes back to sleep if we just rock him for a few minutes instead of crying inconsolably unless I nursed.  Also, we just figured out that he sleeps much better on his tummy.  I'm not sure how you feel about that but since DS can roll over, crawl, etc. I'm ok with him stomach sleeping now.  I hope it gets better soon.  I know how much it SUCKS!

dixielane

Kestrel84:

DS is a couple weeks younger than your LO but we JUST got through a similar phase.  DS woke every forty minutes all.night.long for about a month.  I was pulling my hair out, trying new things.  The only thing that would get him back to sleep was nursing and sometimes even that didn't work.  Just when I was at the end of my rope, he suddenly started sleeping MUCH better.  His sleep changed overnight.  He still wakes a few times in the beginning of the night but he goes back to sleep if we just rock him for a few minutes instead of crying inconsolably unless I nursed.  Also, we just figured out that he sleeps much better on his tummy.  I'm not sure how you feel about that but since DS can roll over, crawl, etc. I'm ok with him stomach sleeping now.  I hope it gets better soon.  I know how much it SUCKS!

No she is really particular with her position and would have a fit if we tried tummy sleeping. She is perfect if she can nurse/co-sleep with me all night, but I don't go to bed at 7pm and often I am up till 1am.

dixielane

celiabwatson:

Have you read the no cry sleep solution. It really resonates with how I parent and truly doesn't include any crying. I can't speak to it's effectiveness because we haven't tried yet (ever since I got the book my son has been teething/sick). Does she nap ok? My son often naps fine and it's the nighttime sleep that is challenging, so we started modeling out nighttime parenting after nap time and that has helped.

In terms of knowing if she's teething, the first sign for us is usually excessive drool, and general crankiness. He also gets a runny nose and tends to put more stuff in his mouth than before. Also, he doesn't eat much food when teething, just nurses often. 

Shes been more fussy lately during the day, just seems more sensitive, but shes been drooling excessively for a while now. I havent gotten the book yet, is that book OK for AP mommas? No she does not nap well. She takes maybe 20 min naps, basically when I get up from nursing her down I can expect her to wake up very soon. She would go all day without a single nap if I didn't force her by nursing her down in a dark room

Kestrel84

dixielane:

celiabwatson:

Have you read the no cry sleep solution. It really resonates with how I parent and truly doesn't include any crying. I can't speak to it's effectiveness because we haven't tried yet (ever since I got the book my son has been teething/sick). Does she nap ok? My son often naps fine and it's the nighttime sleep that is challenging, so we started modeling out nighttime parenting after nap time and that has helped.

In terms of knowing if she's teething, the first sign for us is usually excessive drool, and general crankiness. He also gets a runny nose and tends to put more stuff in his mouth than before. Also, he doesn't eat much food when teething, just nurses often. 

Shes been more fussy lately during the day, just seems more sensitive, but shes been drooling excessively for a while now. I havent gotten the book yet, is that book OK for AP mommas? No she does not nap well. She takes maybe 20 min naps, basically when I get up from nursing her down I can expect her to wake up very soon. She would go all day without a single nap if I didn't force her by nursing her down in a dark room

It sounds like your LO is chronically overtired.  If she wakes up when you get up after nursing, try just letting her nap on you.  If she gets better naps during the day, she will sleep better at night.   

dixielane

Kestrel84:

dixielane:

celiabwatson:

Have you read the no cry sleep solution. It really resonates with how I parent and truly doesn't include any crying. I can't speak to it's effectiveness because we haven't tried yet (ever since I got the book my son has been teething/sick). Does she nap ok? My son often naps fine and it's the nighttime sleep that is challenging, so we started modeling out nighttime parenting after nap time and that has helped.

In terms of knowing if she's teething, the first sign for us is usually excessive drool, and general crankiness. He also gets a runny nose and tends to put more stuff in his mouth than before. Also, he doesn't eat much food when teething, just nurses often. 

Shes been more fussy lately during the day, just seems more sensitive, but shes been drooling excessively for a while now. I havent gotten the book yet, is that book OK for AP mommas? No she does not nap well. She takes maybe 20 min naps, basically when I get up from nursing her down I can expect her to wake up very soon. She would go all day without a single nap if I didn't force her by nursing her down in a dark room

It sounds like your LO is chronically overtired.  If she wakes up when you get up after nursing, try just letting her nap on you.  If she gets better naps during the day, she will sleep better at night.   

Thats what I am thinking. I tried to push for a long nap yesterday, and had to make 2 attempts at rocking her to sleep, and it finally paid off and she got a 1.5 hour nap. And she slept alot better last night......