I tried to help a mama out...

lgmom2010

Tonight we were at my parents for dinner and this girl my mom works with, who is my age, came by with her 1.5 yr old son. She is reallyyyy hyperactive and all over the place. Her poor LO just wanted to be held by his mommy and she kept putting him down right after she picked him up and trying to distract him with books and the dog and anything else she could see/think of. She kept making the comments "omg he just wants to be held and he is just too heavy" and "ughh why is he so clingy" I just felt so bad for the baby and for her as well. I was just standing there with L all wrapped up on me, so I was like have you tried any carriers? Maybe you both would like something like this or a sling or another type of carrier. And she was like well I've tried the Bjorn but he was just too heavy, he is 30 lbs now. And I was like, well I've heard those are uncomfortable, maybe you should try something else? How about a sling for a hip carry or another carrier where you can have him on your back? She was a little curious about wrapping and thought it would be confusing so I offered her to try my RS. So we put her little boy in it and he seemed to really like it. It was hard to get the RS tight enough though and in the right position bc I had DD on me and she was a little too hyperactive about it lol. Plus my mom had her hands all up in there and really didn't know what she was doing. She seemed like she kind of liked it since her hands were free, I don't know how comfortable she was in the RS though. I told her another carrier might be better for her since he is a little heavier and only will continue to get heavier and the RS is only up to 35 lbs (I don't know what the comfort level is thought for a child that heavy). I guess I'm hoping she asks my mom more about it at work next week. I just felt so bad for her LO bc he just wanted to be in his mama's arms!

mrs.baum

Hopefully you planted a seed. That's all you can do .

jday1229

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

This, totally. 

leslie13510

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

All of this times 2.  And sometimes there are times when I know they want to be held, but after being crawled on and smothered all day I *need* to not hold them for a while for my sanity.  Toddlers can be frustrating with the "hold me, put me down, watch me climb up your leg like a monkey, hold me, let me crawl on your head and pull your hair, head butt to the nose, I'm going to pinch your arm while I try to climb up your neck, hold me, put me down, hold meeeeee" all day, and sometimes no sling in the world makes that better.     

zeesbride

leslie13510:

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

All of this times 2.  And sometimes there are times when I know they want to be held, but after being crawled on and smothered all day I *need* to not hold them for a while for my sanity.  Toddlers can be frustrating with the "hold me, put me down, watch me climb up your leg like a monkey, hold me, let me crawl on your head and pull your hair, head butt to the nose, I'm going to pinch your arm while I try to climb up your neck, hold me, put me down, hold meeeeee" all day, and sometimes no sling in the world makes that better.     

I think its cool that you were trying to give her an alternative solution...but I have to agree with these ladies. Toddlers are a rare breed, and sometimes you can be easily touched out by them. 

MrsAmers

leslie13510:

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

All of this times 2.  And sometimes there are times when I know they want to be held, but after being crawled on and smothered all day I *need* to not hold them for a while for my sanity.  Toddlers can be frustrating with the "hold me, put me down, watch me climb up your leg like a monkey, hold me, let me crawl on your head and pull your hair, head butt to the nose, I'm going to pinch your arm while I try to climb up your neck, hold me, put me down, hold meeeeee" all day, and sometimes no sling in the world makes that better.     

This times 1000! There are days with a preschooler and a toddler going through separation anxiety that I am touched out 3 hours into the day! And I love my ring sling...

rianals

I agree that toddlers can be up/down/up/down all day long, but my DD is one of those who wants to be up-up-up-up.  I have just discovered the love for my woven wrap (as a user, rather than just a petter and looker.)  I have found that just wearing her on my back while I bake cookies or wash dishes or something for half an hour can mean a great day vs. a stressful, whiney, pulling my hair out day...

Until a couple weeks ago, my go-to carrier was my BabyHawk.  Now it is 40/40/20 BabyHawk/Woven/Ring Sling.  I am still wearing DD every day for at least a little bit.

erbear

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

This. Wearing a baby is totally different from wearing a toddler. My kid likes to be held and snuggled for about 30 seconds before it's "down please mama".  Doesn't sound like BWing is the obvious solution for this one...

lgmom2010

leslie13510:

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

All of this times 2.  And sometimes there are times when I know they want to be held, but after being crawled on and smothered all day I *need* to not hold them for a while for my sanity.  Toddlers can be frustrating with the "hold me, put me down, watch me climb up your leg like a monkey, hold me, let me crawl on your head and pull your hair, head butt to the nose, I'm going to pinch your arm while I try to climb up your neck, hold me, put me down, hold meeeeee" all day, and sometimes no sling in the world makes that better.     

 

LOL!!! looking forward to those days  I totally can understand how toddlers and babies are different to wear.  I hope maybe she will consider trying a sling then, bc maybe it would help them out just a little bit...glad I at least showed her one/had her try it on! 

webMistress0609

leslie13510:

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

All of this times 2.  And sometimes there are times when I know they want to be held, but after being crawled on and smothered all day I *need* to not hold them for a while for my sanity.  Toddlers can be frustrating with the "hold me, put me down, watch me climb up your leg like a monkey, hold me, let me crawl on your head and pull your hair, head butt to the nose, I'm going to pinch your arm while I try to climb up your neck, hold me, put me down, hold meeeeee" all day, and sometimes no sling in the world makes that better.     

This made me lol. I agree that sometimes BWing isn't always the answer, but I wear Ari for at least 1/2 hour a day, sometimes longer. I actually find he's more willing to play by himself for awhile after being worn for a little bit. Maybe he's sick of me by then.

stever

leslie13510:

fredalina:

i hope it helps her and her son, but i have a very energetic 1 1/2 year old who wants to be held a lot but 90% of the time she wants to be held for <45 seconds. The sling is a liability then!  When she's "clingy" and makes it past a minute without wanting down, i pull the sling over us both.  If he's like my LO, she may get really frustrated by it (especially if she gets something less poppable than a sling (and i can't think of anything MORE poppable than a sling...).

All of this times 2.  And sometimes there are times when I know they want to be held, but after being crawled on and smothered all day I *need* to not hold them for a while for my sanity.  Toddlers can be frustrating with the "hold me, put me down, watch me climb up your leg like a monkey, hold me, let me crawl on your head and pull your hair, head butt to the nose, I'm going to pinch your arm while I try to climb up your neck, hold me, put me down, hold meeeeee" all day, and sometimes no sling in the world makes that better.