What time is bedtime?

norman25

We have been putting him down around 730-830, but the past few weeks he has been pushing it to 9-930. He actually STTN until 830-9 for the first time in months, so I think it is better for him. That leaves me very little time to myself at night. Is this a late bedtime or do I just think its super late?

 

FemmeNat01

I think that's pretty late.

The latest the twins go to bed is 7:30 or they're miserable. I usually aim for 7.

epphd

Is he still taking a third nap?  As soon as Sam went from three naps to two, his bedtime went from 8-8:30 to 7-7:15. 

I wouldn't get in the habit of putting him to bed that late, but I'm basing that on my experience with my guy.

I should say also that we leave the house for the day at 7:45.  If your day starts and 9 and his afternoon nap ends at 6, then a 9 p.m. bedtime may be OK.  Sam's schedule is more like wake at 7, nap #1 at 10, nap #2 at 3, bedtime at 7.

 

CTri17

it seems very late and in all likelihood he may just be overtired and not showing signs of tiredness because of it.

it MAY be better for him but in most cases a 7-8 bedtime is best.

What time is his 2nd nap of the day?

CTri17

epphd:

Sam's schedule is more like wake at 7, nap #1 at 10, nap #2 at 3, bedtime at 7.

 

This is pretty much Lucy's as well

BFab11

C goes to bed around 10:30-11.

If he falls asleep any earlier it turns into just a nap. 

CTri17

BFab11:

C goes to bed around 10:30-11.

If he falls asleep any earlier it turns into just a nap. 

yikes, DH and I go to bed at 930, we could never hang with C!

epphd

BFab - I think that time is not so unusual for a 6 month old who is still taking 3 solid naps and who is not STTN.  For a 9 month old, my personal opinion is that 10:30 is ungodly late. 

 

norman25

DS takes one two hour-ish nap in the afternoon. Anywhere between after lunch and before supper (3-6 is the range). He doesn't act overtired and he is not an unhappy baby in the least.

BFab11

CTri17:

BFab11:

C goes to bed around 10:30-11.

If he falls asleep any earlier it turns into just a nap. 

yikes, DH and I go to bed at 930, we could never hang with C!

LOL DH works swing shift and gets off at midnight.  I usually go to bed around 11:30 or 12, DH is more like 3-4am.   

norman25

He also slept like crap at night when he went down earlier and took more naps. He would go down around 730 and be up multiple times per night and even have to come to bed with us to get back to sleep. He would also wake up earlier and be horribly crabby.

CTri17

norman25:

He also slept like crap at night when he went down earlier and took more naps. He would go down around 730 and be up multiple times per night and even have to come to bed with us to get back to sleep. He would also wake up earlier and be horribly crabby.

then maybe that is a good time for you.

is he taking 1 morning nap and 1 afternoon nap? for an hour each?

how long is he awake in between?

epphd

While I totally agree that every baby is different, if you are interested in learning about the general sleep habits and biology of sleep if infants/toddlers/older children, I *highly* recommend "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child."  It's kind of dense, but I am not kidding when I say it has been spot on with respect my kid. It's not an instruction manual like BabyWise or something like that - it talks about the usual biological rhythms and needs of young children, and how helping to foster good sleep patterns can benefit them the rest of their lives.

It was great when Sam dropped the third nap at 8 months to know that yes, that is normal.  And at 10 months when he was still not STTN - yes, that is normal (waking up once is normal - waking up 3 times is not). Anyway, it sounds like something you might be interested in.   

diana.filipi

It's pretty late for me.  Ophelia goes to bed between 7-7:30 and gets up when ever we do which is between 6:30-7.  She only takes one nap for about 2 hours.

curlychic

DS has his last bottle at 930, then in bed by 10. He also gets 3 naps a day. He usually gets up around 830 or 9am, this week has been 10 or 1030, because he is teething.

I know that this sounds late to some people. DH is a District Manager for a retail chain and depending on the store he is visiting that day and traffic, he can be home anywhere between 630 and 830. If we put him to bed early, DH would never get to see him, as DS is usually asleep when DH leaves for work.

For us this works, but every child is different.

ANJ410

My son is 3 1/2 and I still enforce a 7:30/8:00 bedtime. My DD is in bed between 6 and 6:30 every night. She would be a cranky, crying mess if I kept her up later than that.

I personally think babies and small children should have an early bedtime, but I guess part of the reason I feel that way is because by 8:00 pm I've been doing the mommy thing for 14 hours straight and desperately need an hour or two of downtime before going to bed myself.

epphd

I wanted to chime in to say that I understand how hard it is when a spouse (or you!) work late and don't get much time with the child.  DH frequently misses DS before he goes to sleep.  But - and it is hard to put this without sounding like a judgmental asshat - we think it's more important that Sam get good sleep, rather than staying up "late" to accommodate our schedules. It's a lot to ask an infant to shift his sleep schedule for your preference.  This, of course, with the caveat that every family should do what works for them.

 

curlychic

epphd:

I wanted to chime in to say that I understand how hard it is when a spouse (or you!) work late and don't get much time with the child.  DH frequently misses DS before he goes to sleep.  But - and it is hard to put this without sounding like a judgmental asshat - we think it's more important that Sam get good sleep, rather than staying up "late" to accommodate our schedules. It's a lot to ask an infant to shift his sleep schedule for your preference.  This, of course, with the caveat that every family should do what works for them.

 

LIke I said above, the 10pm bedtime works for us. DH works 6 days a week and has to travel frequently. He absolutely cherishes every single moment that he can spend with DS. Because that is DS's regular sleep schedule, we don't feel like he is staying up late. He gets three naps throughout the day and gets plenty of sleep. Different schedules work for different families.

AmyA210

DD is in bed between 7-7:30p usually. Anything past 8p is meltdown time. She usually STTN until 7:30-8a, occasionally wakes once around 4-5a, usually when she's having teething troubles.

But, like the PPs said, whatever works for your baby, you, and your lifestyle.

baby2121

my guys are in bed by 7.  If you are ok with your baby going to bed that late, then its totally fine.. but if you arent, i would suggest taking away the third nap.

lilhotcandie69

We put DD to bed between 8:30 and 9:30pm. She's always passed out by 9:30 at the latest.