FI Fail (Long Rant/Vent)

jenniann87

My Dads family has their Christmas this Saturday about an hour away from where I live. The family is rather large and kind of crazy. Im not really too happy with most of them either because of the way that they have treated me during everything this year. So I am kind of dreading it and have been talking about it to FI and I think I scared him. (He hasnt yet met the whole family, only a few Uncles). 

He was originally supposed to work this Saturday but found out last week that they arent working Saturday. So I was excited cause then he could go with me and keep me "grounded" so that I dont tell the family how I really feel about some of them.

Well today when I was taking him to work I told him that yesterday when I had talked to my mom she told me that the place were going to (its a hotel) has a pool and a hot tub. So I told him that Ill make sure and throw our suits in the truck so that well be able to get away from the family for a little bit. He looked at me like I was crazy and asked me what I was talking about. I told him Dads Christmas on Saturday. He had forgotten about it. 

So then we started discussing the rest of our Christmas plans. Christmas Eve with my moms family, Christmas morning with his sons grandparents (BMs Mom and Dad), Brunch with my parents and then Dinner with his family. He then got a look on his face and asked if he had to go to everything. Umm yes you do. If I have to you have to.

I understand my family is all very close for the most part and can kind of over do things. And having such a large family can be intimidating. He comes from a family that doesnt hardly speak and when they do it turns into a big fight over everything. So I get that he doesnt really "know" the whole close knit family deal. But come on.

So then I start crying. I have NEVER been a crier. He asks me whats wrong and why Im so emotional and sensitive. Yup that did it. I was bawling. I took him to work dropped him off and cried the whole way home. I know he wasnt trying to be mean but it still hurt and made me mad.

He text me about 15minutes later saying he was sorry and that he wants to go and be there for me. And is just scared that my dads family wont like him. I told him that he has nothing to worry about that they will like him and that he has nothing to worry about with my moms family cause they all know him and love him.

My FI works for Jeep and has been working crazy hours the last couple months. This week has been no better. 11 hour days 6 days a week. YUCK. He gets so worn down during the week that on his days off he just wants to relax and spend time with me and his son. I get it. But we have plans that I cant really change.

Well when I talked to him on his lunch break he told me that because day shift didnt work today because of parts shortage that 2nd shift might have to work Saturday anyways. So now it looks like he might be staying home and that we basically fought over nothing. Ughh. Oh well hopefully I still get some good make-up sex out of it. LOL.

jenniann87

If you made it through that THANK YOU. You are amazing and deserve a drink or two

haziedaze

I'm so glad he came around on this. He's just nervous and that's understandable. It's so exhausting to cry like that, hope you're recovering ok... ((HUGS))

bryanandkatrina

Sorry to hear about your argument ((((hugs))))

The holidays can be rough all around - hopefully everything works out and you guys are able to get through it together.

LilMaggs

*hugs*  The holidays suck in general, and for being a time of togetherness, they sure seem to drive everyone apart.  

Tapatio

Meeting the family can be pretty scary! I get why he was hesitant. I'm glad the scheduling worked out and you guys made up   Make-up sex is always good!

jenniann87

Thanks ladies