Anyone have to have a "tough" conversation with daycare?

blondie42107

DH and I have to have a tough conversation with daycare.  Not really sure how to start the conversation with them.  We don't want hard feelings.  Anyone else have experience?

ZoeyMarie

What type of "tough" conversation?

mle929

Regarding what?

blondie42107

I'm waiting for DH to get home from a meeting but I think daycare cut LO's nails and it looks like his thumb got nicked.  I doubt DH did it as the nail clippers make him nervous and I'm pretty sure he would have told me if he nicked LO's skin.

We'd love our daycare so far but obviously I'm upset by this.

aribs2010

Why is this a tough conversation?  Just say, "Please don"t trim my LO's nails" and leave it at that.

Dreamsicle23

Seriously...anything could have happened.  You didn't even ask if they cut them.  It sounds like you're majorly overreacting.

mle929

If this is a "tough" conversation with day care you have a long road ahead of you as a parent. There are definately bound to be tougher conversations regarding your LO in the future.

disbride061103

I'm not sure why this would be a tough conversation. If your DH didn't do it, just ask the teacher next time LO is at daycare if they clipped LO's nails.

mrsohbuhr

Try not to make a bigger deal out of it than needs to be made... Just say "hey, I noticed LO had a little nic on his thumb the other day. Did anyone notice what happened?" Or... "I'm not exactly sure, but, did someone cut LOs nails by any chance?" If they say yes, it could have been that it had scratched his face or another child maybe? And they just wanted it for safety reasons. Then just tell them you would prefer they don't cut his nails, or that they can just straight up tell you if his nails are looking sketchy. Caregivers are very open to having parents come to them with problems, and they aren't perfect and make mistakes too, but, its VERY intimidating when a parent makes a huge deal out of stuff like this. If you want to continue to have good communication with them... I would recommend, not making this a big "tough conversation" and instead something that you bring up casually and say you'd rather them not do it.

CandKmomma

aribs2010:

Why is this a tough conversation?  Just say, "Please don"t trim my LO's nails" and leave it at that.

This. 

Ninjamom730

Dreamsicle23:

Seriously...anything could have happened.  You didn't even ask if they cut them.  It sounds like you're majorly overreacting.

 

This.  wow. 

OctoberBabyH

Some may say you are overreacting, but at least you are being honest with your feelings. I do agree that you should just tell them not to clip LO's nails and try to move on from there. It is totally normal to worry and to wonder what is going on when you are away from your baby.

jessakris

I don't see why it has to be a difficult conversation. Just ask if they did it, and if they did, ask them to let you know when LO's nails need to be trimmed and not do it themselves.

If they did do it, though, I would think it should have been brought to your attention without you having to ask, especially if there was bleeding involved. Where I used to work if there was ever an injury to a child that left a mark, an incident report had to be filed and the parent notified. I thought this was standard everywhere, but I could be wrong. Are you sure no one else could have done it?

Sarahhhlynn

OctoberBabyH:

Some may say you are overreacting, but at least you are being honest with your feelings. I do agree that you should just tell them not to clip LO's nails and try to move on from there. It is totally normal to worry and to wonder what is going on when you are away from your baby.

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hudsaunt1

If you think that this is a "tough conversation" what are you going to be like if you ever have to fire your daycare provider or question something really serious that occurs at daycare.  You can just say "I was wondering if you cut my child's nails, as I noticed his/her finger had some blood on it.  If so, please don't do it again...please tell me that he/she is scratching him/herself or someone else & I will to it when we get home."