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Whats worse?

bsustar62bsustar62 member
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Finding out you this is not the month by BFN or CD 1?

Trying to hold off testing til Saturday, AF is due on Friday, because I feel like seeing a BFN would be more depressing then AF showing up.

BFP #1 -7/29, EDD-4/5/11, missed m/c at 9 weeks, discovered 9/22, d&c-9/23
BFP #2 -1/9/11, EDD-9/22/11 DD born 9/12/11
BFP #3 - 10/2/13 chemical pregnancy
BFP #4 - 12/25/13 Missed m/c at 8 weeks baby only measured 3 weeks
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Re: Whats worse?

  • PachitaPachita member
    Probably seeing a BFN is worse.  But not by that much (personally)

    BFP#1: 7/14/10.  EDD: 3/19/11--MMC-- D&C 9/2/10.
    BFP#2: 12:22/10.EDD: 8/30/11 C/P 12/25/10
    BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby!                                                                                                                                           BFP #4:  2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15                                                                                                                                                                                      BFP #5:  4/5/15   EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)

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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    It changes for me from month to month.
    m/c 7/17/10
    Dx: MFI- 3% morph
    IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
    IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
    3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
    Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance

    FET: Medicated FET moved up to 5/23 due to ovulation
    Transferred a 6BB hatched blastocyst- genetically normal female embryo
    BFP! 5/28- 5dp6dt      
    6/1 Beta #1- 223! 6/3 Beta #2- 567!

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  • TeamR&BTeamR&B member

    I think the BFN is worse, because then you have to wait for AF to show up so you can move on to the next cycle!

    GL! 

    Anniversary BFP #1: 5-20-10, m/c 5-29-10 @ 5w6d BFP #2: 8-04-10, missed m/c discovered 8-31-10, d&c 9-02-10 BFP #3: 4-08-11 ~ EDD: 12-16-11 Praying that the third time's a charm... Please get comfy & stick around LO!
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  • bsustar62bsustar62 member
    imageTeamR&B:

    I think the BFN is worse, because then you have to wait for AF to show up so you can move on to the next cycle!

    GL! 

    This is my thought this month, last month I thought the opposite. I have been super moody today so I am thinking that means AF is on her way so I will just try and wait it out. I am definitely testing on Saturday as we are going to see a friends band play at a bar so I will want a drink if I can, hopefully I won't be able too :-)

    BFP #1 -7/29, EDD-4/5/11, missed m/c at 9 weeks, discovered 9/22, d&c-9/23
    BFP #2 -1/9/11, EDD-9/22/11 DD born 9/12/11
    BFP #3 - 10/2/13 chemical pregnancy
    BFP #4 - 12/25/13 Missed m/c at 8 weeks baby only measured 3 weeks
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  • asltrouble94asltrouble94

    I would say AF, I can always convince myself that maybe I tested too early or O'd late. 

    I am also holding out testing until the weekend.  AF is due Saturday, so I'm trying to hold out until Sunday.

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  • bsustar62bsustar62 member
    imageasltrouble:

    I would say AF, I can always convince myself that maybe I tested too early or O'd late. 

    I am also holding out testing until the weekend.  AF is due Saturday, so I'm trying to hold out until Sunday.

     

    GL!

    BFP #1 -7/29, EDD-4/5/11, missed m/c at 9 weeks, discovered 9/22, d&c-9/23
    BFP #2 -1/9/11, EDD-9/22/11 DD born 9/12/11
    BFP #3 - 10/2/13 chemical pregnancy
    BFP #4 - 12/25/13 Missed m/c at 8 weeks baby only measured 3 weeks
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  • NY-allieNY-allie
    I'd rather get the BFN and be able to prepare for AF.  But I think everyone is different.  (Also I tested today even though its only CD19 and I'm pretty sure I haven't O'd yet).
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  • haziedazehaziedaze member
    Sometimes I have to see a BFN to make my phantom symptoms chill out. I like the finality of AF though (although when it starts with spotting that messes with my head like crazy). Good luck!
    BFP#1 9/14/10 (EDD 5/21/11); no fetal pole 6w6d, 7w4d, d&c 10/8
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  • DevonBedfordDevonBedford member
    I'm going to go with AF. 
    This month I tested on CD13 as it was my Christmas party that night.  BFN of course but I still held onto the hope that it might be too early.  When AF arrived the very next day I was so emotional!  I couldn't explain it. 
    As this was only my second AF since the D&C, I can't help but wonder if this is only going to get worse with each cycle :(

    Married August 20th, 2005 to the love of my life.

    1st BFP August 6th, 2010. Missed MC discovered at 13 weeks. 

    2nd BFP January 5th, 2011. Beautiful Harper born September 28th, 2011.

    3rd BFP March 15th, 2013. Treated with methotrexate for ectopic pg at 7 weeks.

    4th BFP August 2nd, 2013. Sweet Micah born sleeping at 21 weeks with full T13. 5th BFP July 1st, 2014. Praying for a healthy, full term rainbow!

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  • jenniann87jenniann87 member
    Personally for me it is worse seeing a BFN. I havent tested yet since starting to TTCAL three months ago. But back before I got pg the couple BFNs I had really stung.
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