I am annoyed w/ Dh re: Christmas

MayorMcCheese000

Does you DH seems to have any  understanding/appreciation for how much work Christmas is?

 I keep telling DH I am stressed about Christmas and he just doesn't get it, he thinks I am being crazy, but I swear he is like a child in that he doesn't understand all the work that goes into it. He is not the one shopping, budgeting, wrapping, baking, standing in line at the post office, menu planning, making list after list of to do's, handling the charity, crafting gifts with DS, etc. It's a fvcking lot of work, even though I admit my controlling nature would have me doing it all anyways, even if he did volunteer. I just wish he appreciated all the had work that goes into it, so that way when I do tell him I am stressed out he doesn't look at me like I am crazy.

and breathe

vent over.

august06mom

Why can't he take over some of the tasks -- at least some of the shopping and wrapping?

If my DH bitched to me about how stressed he was, and I offered to help but he turnd me down, I'd think he was an ass and would tune him out. *cough martyr cough*

Rebekah1021

I can relate, I really don't let DH do anything, but buy his dad a present.

michaels_lovely

That is why he was in charge of all the christmas purchases this year...every last one.  It was worth it to me to release some of the control so that I could actually enjoy my holiday to.  So far so good, shopping is almost done and he is way under the budget set.

KRISTA555

Maybe you're putting too much on your plate.  Are there a couple things you can eliminate?  And let DH help you!

littlemermaid

Everyone has a different meaning of what Xmas is to them.  Maybe to him, it's just a time of year to chill out and spend that day sitting on the couch with family.  For you it's, shopping, wrapping, baking, crafts, budgeting, menu planning, post office lines..etc.  If you want to do all those things at Christmas and he doesn't then you just have to accept the fact that this is your meaning of Xmas and it's going to be all on you.    He probably looks at you "like your crazy" because he's probably thinking that no one but yourself is forcing you to go to these great lengths.  So you'll just have to cut back or continue to do everything and not resent the fact that he doesn't help or show his appreciation in the way you think he should.  If he at least buys you an xmas gift then he does appreciate you, just in his own way.