S/O Judging "expensive" cars?

BubblyToes

So essentially some of you would judge me because I drive what is considered to be a luxury car?   Or you automatically assume I can't afford it and am driving it to be showy and in your face?

IMO, that is just as bad as making fun of someone driving a beater.

Jamaica_Bride

I judge everyone on everything :oP

I voted yes b/c I think men who drive HUGE trucks are making up for a short coming. Giggle.

 

Seriously, my most fierce judging is of people who carry fake designer bags and try to pass them off as real.

 

DevonPow

Agree. We have a Mercedes SUV, and DH wants to get a Range Rover. I would be surprised if anyone judged us based on having the car we do. (oh, and I judge Hummers not because they are expensive, but because they are huge, ridiculous, and take up 3 parking spaces at a time, Who the eff needs a Hummer in the middle of Boston??? But I digress...)

Goose51504

Don't sweat it. It's similar to the plastic surgery argument. Some people on here can't fathom that there are others who can afford nice things, without being in extreme debt. Drive that BMW with pride, slore! You know I do.

BubblyToes

D, I'm with you on the Hummers.  And L, fake handbags make me cringe.

MelandJeff

If you had a small penis AND drove a BMW, then yes. I would judge you. I dont think you have a small penis though. I think you have a HUGE one

BubblyToes

Mel, my penis is enormous.  I have to strap it to my leg just to get around.  **sigh**  It's such a burden sometimes.

Goose51504

MelandJeff:

If you had a small penis AND drove a BMW, then yes. I would judge you. I dont think you have a small penis though. I think you have a HUGE one

I agree with Mel. Judgment is based on penis size and penis size alone. However, I might have to defriend you if you attach one of those fake ball sacks to the Beamer. Big penis or not, that's just not cool.

Zenya

I don't judge expensive cars but I do roll my eyes at the mom at C's preschool who drives a big ass suburban.  I think it's stupid.

MelandJeff

Goose51504:

MelandJeff:

If you had a small penis AND drove a BMW, then yes. I would judge you. I dont think you have a small penis though. I think you have a HUGE one

I agree with Mel. Judgment is based on penis size and penis size alone. However, I might have to defriend you if you attach one of those fake ball sacks to the Beamer. Big penis or not, that's just not cool.

I freaking LOVE the ball sacks. It's just so klassy. "Hey, you know you are wondering how big my balls are. Let me solve the mystery for you and make a mold of them and hang them from my car. All the chicks dig it."

Jamaica_Bride

Balls are gross, plastic OR real.

BubblyToes

MelandJeff:

Goose51504:

MelandJeff:

If you had a small penis AND drove a BMW, then yes. I would judge you. I dont think you have a small penis though. I think you have a HUGE one

I agree with Mel. Judgment is based on penis size and penis size alone. However, I might have to defriend you if you attach one of those fake ball sacks to the Beamer. Big penis or not, that's just not cool.

I freaking LOVE the ball sacks. It's just so klassy. "Hey, you know you are wondering how big my balls are. Let me solve the mystery for you and make a mold of them and hang them from my car. All the chicks dig it."

 <-------This chick?  Digs fake ballz.

And I'm waiting for all the sanctimommies to come in here and answer me.

CleoKitty

Zenya:

I don't judge expensive cars but I do roll my eyes at the mom at C's preschool who drives a big ass suburban.  I think it's stupid.

I used to do the same thing, but now it's looking like my next car might be a Suburban. Figures. 

luckyluvr

I would just assume you had money, that's all. Just like I would assume someone driving a beater had little money. Not a bad thing. As for judging people who drive big SUV's, don't judge until you've had one. Not everyone wants a minivan, and sometimes you need space. Live in a rural area, and you'll find yourself thinking they're more useful.

CTFandme

don't you drive a BMW?  I guess to me that's not the expensive car I was referring to. My folks drive a BMW too.   

jessicaclare

I would just assume you had some money. Not a bad thing, though. Unless you were using food stamps to pay for your groceries and then hopped in your BMW. I might wonder about that. 

AnnapolisLari

jessicaclare:

I would just assume you had some money. Not a bad thing, though. Unless you were using food stamps to pay for your groceries and then hopped in your BMW. I might wonder about that. 

The woman I sorta judged last week: expensively dressed, cart full of high-ticket groceries, saw her load them into new model SUV.

2 of her 3 credit cards were declined at the register.

Bubs and her beamer? Wouldn't bat an eyelash.

wellfleet04

Meh.  I'm not a car person.  I honestly do not care AT ALL what car I or anyone else drives.  DH has a nice car because he cares.  I don't, but I could if I wanted to. 

But, yeah, I think it's like anything else where you're buying something nonessential and expensive (clothes, homes, whatever, really)...not that people judge, necessarily, but if you drive a pricey car, people make assumptions, some as innocent as "must be nice that you can afford it" and some not so nice, like "you need to be flashy/show off" or "you're a snob" or "you can't afford your payments."  I think when you buy a showy car, you open yourself up to that.  But I don't really think you should care.  If you are a car person and like your car, then who gives a crap if you're judged?   Everyone chooses how to spend their own money.  If you chose a car, it's just a more obvious demonstration than other ways, kwim?

Yodajo

BMW, Mercedes, Jaguar, whatever, I don't care.  Even the super high end cars, I don't judge.  A lot of people appreciate the engineering and beauty in them and choose to spend their money on them.  Have you ever watched a Barrett-Jackson auction and seen what those cars go for? Some are in the 7 figure range. I would never judge the people who buy those cars.  They have a love for cars and appreciate the history of them.

I do, however judge the Hummer drivers because I find them to be obnoxious.  Same thing with the super jacked up trucks, but not as much as the Hummers.  They just look ridiculous.   

 

gracendantho26

I love how all of the sudden all of the rich people we know drive beaters. LOL

The ones I know drive nice cars.

gracendantho26

CleoKitty:

Zenya:

I don't judge expensive cars but I do roll my eyes at the mom at C's preschool who drives a big ass suburban.  I think it's stupid.

I used to do the same thing, but now it's looking like my next car might be a Suburban. Figures. 

I got sucked in a few years back and got a big a$$ Infniti QX56. I love it. My really rich friends with crappy little Dodge Neons are totally jealous of my luxury SUV!

Melett

The only thing I don't like is when some of my friends irl say/complain about how poor they are then spend their money on all kinds of expensive stuff/ cars I don't say anything but I just think of people who really are poor and I know a lot of people are having rough times but it just irks me..I guess that is kind of a different subject. I don't judge people who have expensive cars, it never crossed my mind that they might not be able to afford it, I guess I don't have that much time to put that much thought into someone's car..I might just think-wow, nice car..

littlemermaid

I don't judge people for the cars they drive.  A car means different things to different people.   It also never means how much money a person has.  A lot of wealthy people I know drive non-luxury cars because they just want to blend in. 

KRISTA555

Yes, I do, but you shouldn't take it personally. It is human nature to make snap judgements of other people. It's not a consious decision in most circumstances... it's just the first thing that pops in your head.   I might immediately think those things when I saw your car, but it's not like I would hold on to that belief if I met you, or that I would treat you any differently.  In fact, I probably wouldn't even realize that I had those snap judgements unless it was pointed out to me.  Again, it's human nature. Don't take it personally.

ETA: The reason I would immediately have those snap judgements is because of the people I have personally known who drove expensive cars but didn't have a savings account.  It's not your fault that I've known those people.. but my mind immediately jumps to those people when I see expensive cars.   Like I said before, though, I'm not even aware that I'm doing it in most circumstances.

camrude

littlemermaid:

I don't judge people for the cars they drive.  A car means different things to different people.   It also never means how much money a person has.  

This.

melmax

Yodajo:

BMW, Mercedes, Jaguar, whatever, I don't care.  Even the super high end cars, I don't judge.  A lot of people appreciate the engineering and beauty in them and choose to spend their money on them.  Have you ever watched a Barrett-Jackson auction and seen what those cars go for? Some are in the 7 figure range. I would never judge the people who buy those cars.  They have a love for cars and appreciate the history of them.

I do, however judge the Hummer drivers because I find them to be obnoxious.  Same thing with the super jacked up trucks, but not as much as the Hummers.  They just look ridiculous.   

Oh crap, I thought you were my friend!  I just got a new Escalade. 

 

Yodajo

melmax:

Yodajo:

BMW, Mercedes, Jaguar, whatever, I don't care.  Even the super high end cars, I don't judge.  A lot of people appreciate the engineering and beauty in them and choose to spend their money on them.  Have you ever watched a Barrett-Jackson auction and seen what those cars go for? Some are in the 7 figure range. I would never judge the people who buy those cars.  They have a love for cars and appreciate the history of them.

I do, however judge the Hummer drivers because I find them to be obnoxious.  Same thing with the super jacked up trucks, but not as much as the Hummers.  They just look ridiculous.   

Oh crap, I thought you were my friend!  I just got a new Escalade. 

 

Did you?!

I was referring to the pickup trucks that are five feet off the ground!

melmax

Yodajo:

melmax:

Yodajo:

BMW, Mercedes, Jaguar, whatever, I don't care.  Even the super high end cars, I don't judge.  A lot of people appreciate the engineering and beauty in them and choose to spend their money on them.  Have you ever watched a Barrett-Jackson auction and seen what those cars go for? Some are in the 7 figure range. I would never judge the people who buy those cars.  They have a love for cars and appreciate the history of them.

I do, however judge the Hummer drivers because I find them to be obnoxious.  Same thing with the super jacked up trucks, but not as much as the Hummers.  They just look ridiculous.   

Oh crap, I thought you were my friend!  I just got a new Escalade. 

 

Did you?!

I was referring to the pickup trucks that are five feet off the ground!

lol, yes, I did!  love it, big tires and all

r9stedt

Nah, I don't judge for expensive card unless it can be proven that one is really one government assistance.  Your case?  Hardly.   

Now, that being said.   I can recall you referring to your car here on the nest as the "beamer" or something of the like.   If you really do that IRL, I would judge you.

Ex:  "Oh, crapodoodle.  I left my sephora lip glass in the beamer.  Be right back so I can reapply!"

"Will, don't tell anyone that I let you eat 1/2 a french fry while in the beamer.  If you do tell, then your father will want to know why I don't let him eat trail mix in the beamer, and it could be really bad."

"Here is a $100 bill as a tip for carrying out my groceries, cute grocery boy.  As you can see, by me driving a beamer, I am really rich.  Oh, okay, here is another $100 for safely securing those groceries in the back of the beamer."

"Hubby, would you be upset if David and I had sex in the back of the beamer after his concert?  No?  Woot!" 

Yodajo

melmax:

Yodajo:

melmax:

Yodajo:

BMW, Mercedes, Jaguar, whatever, I don't care.  Even the super high end cars, I don't judge.  A lot of people appreciate the engineering and beauty in them and choose to spend their money on them.  Have you ever watched a Barrett-Jackson auction and seen what those cars go for? Some are in the 7 figure range. I would never judge the people who buy those cars.  They have a love for cars and appreciate the history of them.

I do, however judge the Hummer drivers because I find them to be obnoxious.  Same thing with the super jacked up trucks, but not as much as the Hummers.  They just look ridiculous.   

Oh crap, I thought you were my friend!  I just got a new Escalade. 

 

Did you?!

I was referring to the pickup trucks that are five feet off the ground!

lol, yes, I did!  love it, big tires and all

Well, you know where to come when you're ready for a road trip!

Carol*Brady

I don't really care enough to have any thoughts about it--I am surrounded by luxury cars in my hood & DD's school--I drive a Nissan & don't give 2 sh*ts about my car as long as it doesn't break down every month (driving crap cars for 15yrs makes you appreciate it when you have one that doesn't)...But my parents have a BMW, my MIL drives a VW Bug...guess which one is a multi-millionaire? ;o) I don't think it has much to do w/ the $$--my parents live in a large "show" city & MIL lives in a small, economically depressed city...there is definitely an expectation in some areas that don't exist in others. 

BubblyToes

r9stedt:

"Hubby, would you be upset if David and I had sex in the back of the beamer after his concert?  No?  Woot!" 

DEAD.

And in the interest of full disclosure, sometimes I do refer to it as the Beamer. But it's had a rough year.  Sometimes it needs to be babied.  (Will you judge me less if I show you my bewbs?)

PS I love how you incorporated David, the beamer, sex, and woot all in one sentence.  That is a moment of nest greatness.

r9stedt

Everything turns out okay if David is involved, right?

summerbrideDC

I judge the way a person DRIVES their car, beater, luxury--whatever.  How you treat other drivers on the road in terms of cutting them off, letting people into a lane, using directionals, etc, means a lot more to me in terms of how I judge someone as opposed to the car they drive.  

That being said, I judge a bad/obnoxious driver of a super expensive car more harshly than I do a bad driver driving a heap. Not sure why, but I do.

BubblyToes

r9stedt:

Everything turns out okay if David is involved, right?

Yes.  Yes it does.

r9stedt

Please tell me you have a picture of David on your dashboard or visor.  

 

 

Because, that I might judge you for.

 

Or, if you don't, maybe you need to get one.  maybe that is the reason the beamer has had a bad year.  Beamer needs David to keep it safe.  

BubblyToes

Pretty sure that would put husband over the edge.

It's bad enough when we're in my car, and he comes on the ipod and I go "hi" everytime.  LOL

r9stedt

Sounds like me and Luke Bryan.   One day, I got an email from him, and about passed out.  Swear to you.  Then I remember that I was on his fan site and emailed myself a tour date (in Kansas).   Still, "Luke Bryan" as the sender?  Made my heart stop.

BF knows of my love for him.   Whenever he comes on the radio I go "Aw.  My boyfriend is on!" 

Bellisimo

You've got a great job, right?  I'm assuming YH does too.  I say drive whatever you want to drive and screw everyone else.  I've seen SIL at her poorest moments in life (in med school, no job, living on husband's single income as a nurse) INSIST on purchasing and showing off her BMW SUV...which she referred to as "The Beamer".  She couldn't afford it...and SURELY couldn't afford the multiple repairs it required during the year that she owned it.  She sold it and got something more practical.  I've also had so called "best friends" interrogate me as to why my husband chooses to drive a Honda Accord when "he could be driving a luxury vehicle".  I simply answered, "Um, this thing IS a luxury vehicle.  Dude, it has heated seats!  Step off!"  Cars, like clothes, do not make the man.  We drove a used '97 Toyota Landcruiser with over 100,000 miles and a Honda Accord for years (even after MH made Partner).  And now, :::clutch your pearls ladies::: I drive an SUV (Sequoia) because I haul two kids in big ass carseats AND have other passengers at times and haul other items such as groceries (since all I am is a "grocery getter"), strollers, bulllshit, etc. and I LOVE every minute of it.  MH....still drives our luxury Honda Accord with heated seats.  And that BFF that busted my balls about when we were going to start "keeping up with the Joneses and drive European motorcars" got kicked to the curb and is no longer my BFF or friend period....not just for that reason, but that's where our problems began.  So, you see, you cannot judge anyone by their vehicle, home, clothes, etc. because you NEVER know their exact circumstances.  Like I said before, some of the wealthiest people I know are some of the most modest, thrifty and financially conservative individuals...and they just keep gettin' richer.  If you can afford it and you want it, then drive it.  If you can't, then live within your means.  I mean, that only makes sense...but it's somehow close to impossible for some people to do.