TTC After a Loss

When it rains it pours ... I guess

Yesterday our truck decided to break down as my FI was on his way home from the bank. Perfect just what we need to put more money into it. Its like a bottomless pit. So we had it towed to a shop down the street. Turns out the fuel pump was broken. He had a spare one that he had bought for his sisters car but it didnt fit. Luckily it fit ours. So he took it to the shop this morning and they fixed it. But there went $300.

So then we were sitting eating lunch when MIL calls to find out what SS wants for Christmas so she can go do her shopping. So FI talks to her and tells her a few ideas. They talk a little more. After FI gets off the phone with his mom he is just sitting there staring out the window and getting teared up. Now FI isnt a really emotional/sensitive guy so I knew that something was wrong. I asked him with no response what was wrong. So now I am crying cause Im scared of what he is going to tell me.

I sat there holding him for about 5 minutes when he finally told me what is wrong. His mom has cancer. She found out on Monday and told him today. He is the oldest of 4 and she doesnt want anyone else to know. Only FI, me and FIL until she gets more results.

She was very vague about it. From what I understand the drs arent saying what type of cancer it is but something with her Lymphnodes. They also dont know how far it has spread. All I know is she is having surgery on Wednesday and well know more from there.

I really am very scared for her. She is such a great woman. And I just keep praying that everything will be okay.

But really when is enough enough. When will our "bad luck" end. I feel like 2010 has been nothing but low blows thrown at us. Its been one thing after another. From everything with the baby, to financial stuff, to other family problems and now this. I dont want to bring religion into this. But I was brought up Catholic and through everything I have been trying to have faith and not lose that trust in God. But now it just seems so hopeless to me. Whats the point.

I am so ready for a new year and a fresh start with 2011.

Sorry I had to get this all out. I am sorry if some of it doesnt make sense Im still trying to process it all.

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Re: When it rains it pours ... I guess

  • I am so sorry, that is a crazy amount of stuff to have to deal with. And I agree... I'm ready for the sh!tstorm of 2010 to be over. *HUGS*
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  • (((Hugs))) I am so sorry - that is a lot to deal with.  I don't blame you for questioning your faith - I did the same thing after losing Eliott.  And I agree with you - 2010 has been a horrible year...Bring on 2011!
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  • I am so sorry about everything you are going through. I agree this year has been terrible.  I hope that new year brings you peace and happiness. My T&Ps are with you and your MIL.  (((BIG HUGS)))
  • I am so sorry. That is way too much to have to deal with. I'll be praying for her, especially on Wednesday! I hope we all get that fresh start in 2011, I'm over 2010.

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  • I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this. I hope that you guys will be able to get answers and that things will start going better for you soon! It has been a rough year for many of us and I am hoping the best for you. I hope that 2011 will be a better year for all of us. Take care. You are in our T&P! 
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  • i'm so sorry about that and hope everything gets better!  (((HUGS)))
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  • *huge hugs*  I am so sorry.
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  • I'm so sorry. T&P for your MIL.
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  • I'm so sorry. I'm waiting for 2010 to be over too. It's been a sh!tty year. 2011 has got to be better!

    My T&Ps are with your MIL. Keep us posted. It must be a very tough time for your DH. I really hope your MIL's surgery goes well on Wednesday. ((hugs))

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  • i'm so sorry!  i'll keep your MIL & family in my t&p... hoping for good news after surgery!
  • I am so so so sorry for everything you are dealing with right now. I really hope all goes well on Wednesday. T&P and (((HUGS)))
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  • I am so sorry you are going through all this.  I really hope 2011 is a much better year.  I hope the surgery for your MIL goes well and that the cancer has not spread.  I understand about it being hard to keep your trust in God, I am having the same problem.
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  • Thank you. It has been rough. Ill keep posted as we find everything out.
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