I wonder if this mom is mad at me

NewFamily09

I watch 2 kids during the week along with DS.  I'm also expecting my 2nd son to come along at the end of December.  I had previously told one of the moms that I would be able to take her baby back after I have a maternity leave.  Well, last week I told her that after thinking about it a lot, I don't think I'd be able to handle her baby, plus a newborn, plus my 15 month old.  Her baby is very cute, but also very very collicky.  She's 9 months old, but literally cries almost all day.  If I hold her or sit right next to her, she's okay for a few minutes, but if I have to get up to get something, go to the bathroom, or cook lunch for the other kids, this baby cries non-stop.  I told the mom that I just don't think I'd be able to give her baby the attention she needs with a newborn in the house.  Now, all of a sudden, it's kind of weird because she didn't bring hte baby yesterday and isn't bringing her tomorrow (she only comes M,W,F) because she's teething and thinks it'd be too much for me.  Can't tell by the tone of emails, but I hope she doesn't think I can't handle her baby now.  I just meant that it would be hard once I have a newborn to take care of also.  I hope I didn't offend her.   I tried to word it as nicely as I could.

jenn_darrin1515

It sounds like she is being a bit snarky about it...but what can you do?  You are doing what is best for you and your family...and you are giving her enough notice to find new childcare...

Baby428

NewFamily09:

I watch 2 kids during the week along with DS.  I'm also expecting my 2nd son to come along at the end of December.  I had previously told one of the moms that I would be able to take her baby back after I have a maternity leave.  Well, last week I told her that after thinking about it a lot, I don't think I'd be able to handle her baby, plus a newborn, plus my 15 month old.  Her baby is very cute, but also very very collicky.  She's 9 months old, but literally cries almost all day.  If I hold her or sit right next to her, she's okay for a few minutes, but if I have to get up to get something, go to the bathroom, or cook lunch for the other kids, this baby cries non-stop.  I told the mom that I just don't think I'd be able to give her baby the attention she needs with a newborn in the house.  Now, all of a sudden, it's kind of weird because she didn't bring hte baby yesterday and isn't bringing her tomorrow (she only comes M,W,F) because she's teething and thinks it'd be too much for me.  Can't tell by the tone of emails, but I hope she doesn't think I can't handle her baby now.  I just meant that it would be hard once I have a newborn to take care of also.  I hope I didn't offend her.   I tried to word it as nicely as I could.

I posted something similar below.  I put in my two weeks today because of a 4 month old baby who is exactly the way you are describing the 9 month old!  I couldn't imagine bringing a newborn into the mix!  She might be mad or worried that she now has to find a new caregiver but o'well - you gotta do what is best for your family  

mandi7782

You posted something about this a few weeks ago right?  How did you tell the mom, email or face to face?  How did she take it?  I would try calling her and talking to her about it since you can't read her tone on an email. 

NewFamily09

mandi7782:

You posted something about this a few weeks ago right?  How did you tell the mom, email or face to face?  How did she take it?  I would try calling her and talking to her about it since you can't read her tone on an email. 

Yeah, I did post about it earlier.  I ended up asking her in an email to drop by a few minutes early one morning to talk.  And I told her face to face.  I tried to be as nice as possible- I didn't insult her kid or anything.  I just told her I was concerned that I wouldn't be able to give her daughter enough attention.  Since her daughter could easily outgrow this phase in the next  months, I told her I'd try watching her daughter and the baby for a week and see how it goes (actually her suggestion) and she would have back up care lined up in case it doesn't go well.