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mjencook

Hello ladies. I should be just starting my 2nd trimester and sadly find myself here. We went in for our 12 week NT scan with our 2nd OB apt right after on Friday and were shocked and devastated to see our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Despite seeing at 8 weeks a beautiful baby measuring right on the day and very strong heartbeat, our baby did not make it past 11 weeks and I had no signs whatsoever that anything was wrong. I am having a D&C tomorrow as my body has not wanted to let go of the baby.

 

This was our first pregnancy, and we had so many hopes and dreams for this child. We found out we were pregnant days before DH?s birthday, and my EDD was the week before mine in June?so that hurts as I am 40 and was thrilled to get pregnant and give birth all in my 40^th year. We told our parents at Thanksgiving and planned on telling close friends with fun Happy New Year, Happy New Baby cards?now I don?t even want to send out any holidays cards or decorate and feel guilty as I love this time of the season.

 

Reading thru recent posts makes my heart ache for each of our losses, but also gives me some comfort that I am not alone in my feelings and this hard journey to becoming parents. Thank you all for sharing.

hmclaughlin10

First of all, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

DH and I found out we were pregnant the day after you did..We found out on the 23rd that our baby stopped developing at 6 wks. I never thought it would feel this way or we would be going through something like this. We were so excited and it just hurts to have to just throw all of our excitement away. We also had a D&C the following day.

I have found so much comfort in this board and reading thru everyone elses losses. It makes you feel like you are not alone and realize how many other people have gone thru what we are going thru. It certainly does not make the heartache any better, but it is somewhat comforting. I pray you find comfort in talking to other people and that you have another chance to have a precious, bouncing baby.

dana1318a

I am so, so sorry for your loss.  I know how you feel not wanting to really celebrate the holidays.  I'm not sending out christmas cards this year either.  We did start to decorate and it's actually making me feel better.  But of course do what works for you!  If you feel it's best to not really participate in the holidays, don't.  Maybe you and DH can find a last minute deal on a vacation somewhere to take your mind off of everything for a few days, and you won't have to be overwhelmed by family.  Everyone of us needs to do something different to find peace.  I hope you're able to find what you need to do.  And I hope that we're able to comfort you while you try to figure it all out.  ((hugs))

Kwhite0522

Haven't been on this site in awhile as my husband and I are now 0-2. I miscarried at 8 weeks on April 27th of this year, and then found out I was pregnant again on my birthday 8-11-10. At my first tri screening the NT measurement was too large. Turned out that our baby had down's syndrome, and we found out it was a girl which is what we were hoping for. It was now 14 weeks into my pregnancy and we decided to terminate which was a decision I never thought I would have to make. The doctors say this should not have happened as I am not high risk. I was planning and excited to be pregnant during the holidays. I have a wonderful husband and I am getting into the Christmas spirit, but it is till hard. We are eagerly awaiting until we can try again. It was the hardest thing I ever had to go through, but everything happens for a reason, and it was for the best. You will get through this and have a beautiful baby one day. I also know that when you become pregnant again- you will be paranoid and hesitant to get excited, but the posts on here reaslly help, and just have faith that it will work out! Good luck and I hope you can enjoy the holidays!

CheesyPeas

I'm so sorry about your loss!  I too got my BFP on 10/9 and was supposed to be a June mom.  I found out at 10 weeks that my LO had stopped growing the previous week and no longer had a heartbeat (the week before Thanksgiving, which is when we were planning to share our news).  Miscarriage is such a heartbreaking thing, and I'm so sorry you find yourself here.  You are most certainly not alone though.  We all feel your pain.  And FWIW, I'm not decorating AT ALL for Christmas because I'm a bah humbug this year for the first time in my life.