Thinking about showers yet?

bunnyc1246

My mom and 2 best friends are putting on my shower at my mamas house around april/may. I know that my fiances family will want to be involved, but havent said if they want to go to that one, or throw a seperate one for his side of the family. I think I would feel weird since ive only met his mom, not his whole family yet... but i dont want them to feel weird going to my familys side cause they dont all know each other. Should I just sit back and let it happen, or ask his mom what would make her more comfortable? ( but i dont want to come off like im asking for a 2nd shower either)

KelXoXo

I'd probably hold off on a few months...maybe she is planning something and hasn't told you yet?

Since two different sets of friends asked to throw mine, I planned to do friends at one, both sides of family at the other.  Last night, mom told me that MIL has contacted her wanting them to throw a shower, and I had no idea.  So something might be in the works already, and they're waiting to tell you (or want to surprise you!) 

Telly21182

I agree with PP that I would wait a little bit - it's still pretty early to plan, unless you're like my MIL who was planning Christmas dinner in May!

I know that I'll probably have two showers - one with DHs family that will probably be a joint shower with SIL who is 3 weeks ahead of my EDD.  I'll have another one with my family as well since it would be weird for them to go to one with SIL as an honoree.  

Most of my friends are guys so I'm sure I won't have a friend shower! 

~denise~

Maybe I'm the only one but I think it would be a nice way to meet his family. I think it's better then instead of when the babys born or the wedding. IMO.

I'd just sit back and let it happen. If your soon to be ILs don't offer/talk about a shower, then I think your mom needs to invite them to theirs (at least the immediate family) so they don't feel left out.

DreamChaser246

~denise~:

Maybe I'm the only one but I think it would be a nice way to meet his family. I think it's better then instead of when the babys born or the wedding. IMO.

I'd just sit back and let it happen. If your soon to be ILs don't offer/talk about a shower, then I think your mom needs to invite them to theirs (at least the immediate family) so they don't feel left out.

Ditto. Or depending on how many your soon to be IL's want to invite... the group may get too big and smarter to split. Also, if you did a shower with mostly his family, it would give them more of an opportunity to meet you.

LaRue86

After my wedding shower, I will be having three separate showers. Friends, my side and FIL, and then MIL family.

 My husbands parents are separated and remarried, and the drama can be insane. They all put on happy faces at my bridal shower, but it was definitely tense. My FIL side of the family is very gracious, while my MIL side is a little more outspoken. They feel that I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth because my parents have money. The key word is, my parents. When I turned 15 I went out and a I got a job so I could pay my own way. Yes my parents paid for a portion of tuition, but for the most part I have taken care of it. The shower was held at my parents home and comments were made like "it must be nice to have this kind of money" etc. which is just offensive and not necessary. 

Needless to say my family shower will include my FIL's side of my husband family, since those sides get along. I have a great friend who is willing to do whatever needs to be done with all three showers. I know my mom and MIL will help her,  but it is just less stressful to do it this way. I thought about adding my friends with my family, but that would just lead to drama....