Hi all(kind of long.)

ilovenyc1023

This is the last place I want to be right now, but sadly this is where I find myself. This past month has been a long one. On 11/02 My FI and I went to the ER because I had been bleeding for a week. We were 6w0d and we saw a heartbeat...but they told us that my uterus was 50% full of blood. So I stayed off my feet for a month, no work, I barely went to class. We had a doctor's appointment on 11/16 and there was no heartbeat. They drew blood since it was my second one in a row to see what was wrong. So I assumed that they would recheck a few days later to make sure there was no heartbeat and then schedule me for another D&C. Well they didn't. I had to go back for an office visit just to be asked, "how you feeling". They drew blood and called it a day. So on 11/29 when I still had not been scheduled for a D&C I called a little upset because the longer it's in there, the longer I have to deal with the pain and constant reminder and we can't grieve and come to terms with it...So they told me to come in and set it up. We did. During that visit the doctor told us that I have a genetic thing wrong, which is a super easy fix luckily. I have to take two folic acid pills twice a day at like 800mcg's each and baby asprin every day, not just while i'm pregnant, until I'm done having babies...I'm totally ok with it if it'll give me healthy children. We scheduled my appointment for today, 12/03.  Then I got a call saying my insurance wasn't going to cover it. I live in Michigan and I have my mom's insurance in South Carolina...I dunno if that's the reason why, they never really said. I got that call on Wednesday fromt he insurance company. Thursday, while I'm at work the doctor's office called me and told me the surgery was cancelled because it wasn't covered?! I don't think that's even fair or ethical for that matter. It was horrible, all day yesterday i was heartbroken and worried that I would have to carry this dead baby until something bad happened to me. But last night, out of a miracle from God, I miscarried naturally. Worse thing I have ever been through but my fiance was there the entire time. We woke up at 1:30 and we didn't go back to sleep until all of it passed around 6:40 this morning. Queasy of blood and the site of his embryo...he sat in the bathroom with me holding me and drying my tears. We are not trying to conceive yet, that would just be ridiculous....but we are going to as soon as we can. So probably February. I just wanted to meet a few ladies who are in the same position I am. I am very sorry it's so long. It's just been a very long month...

JLGY

First off, I'm so sorry for your losses. That's great news though that they have found out what is going on with you so that you hopefully will not have to go through this again. I cannot believe that they would cancel your appointment based on insurance without even talking to you! I live in Canada so it's different here, but I cannot imagine that's proper protocol. I would be furious. Although this is really difficult, I'm glad that you passed everything and can start to look forward from here.  ((hugs)) 

haziedaze

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard it was to see everything. I'm glad that it's over now and that you have some answers about what is going on. That must be reassuring! Be gentle with yourself right now and take the time you need to heal. There's a great TTC after loss board to join, too, when you feel ready. ((HUGS))

tew213

I am so sorry for your loss ((HUGS))

mdhealy676

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had to deal with insurance issues on top of everything else.  I'm glad you're thinking positively about trying again when you're ready.