Good appt -still nervous to tell!! [Sorry - Long!]

Debbie0580

I had my second prenatal appt yesterday!  We did the standard BP check and listened to the HB.  My doctor found the HB right away but the little bugger moved on him and wouldn't stay still.  Finally s/he stayed still long enough and the HR was 162 bpm!  Very exciting!

The doctor did bring up the option of the prenatal screening tests, so now we are left with that decision.  I still really don't know what to do and only have a few days to decide!  The poll on here was about even - to be honest I was hoping to see that either everyone does it or they don't!!

We've heard a strong HB twice now, but I'm still nervous to tell.  Our parents and siblings know nothing yet!  We were waiting to tell at Christmas.  Part of the reason I want to do the scan is so that I can see the baby once more before before we tell - which is completely selfish!  But I also don't know how I feel about the added worry the scan could cause!  Ahhhh...at some point I need to just realize that things *should* be fine - and if anything were to happen at this point (I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow) I would want the support of both families anyway!!

Yeeesh - sorry girls!  That turned into me sorting out my feelings by typing!!  Hope you don't mind! 

courtneybrooke921

awwwwwwwww. congrats on a great 2nd appointment! Don't stress about the test...I personally was happy to get it and felt relief, however I see both sides.

AmsterdamMa*am

Hi hunny, your anxieties are normal.  My midwife told me that pregnancy can exacerbate anxieties.  For this reason, I am trying not to cater to mine.  This is my personal approach, so not telling you what to do, but I freaked out when I couldn't feel the baby in there and scheduled an ultrasound.  I then decided I need to chill out and not feed into my anxiety.  So I canceled the appointment.  The same goes with the NT scan.  For me, it would feel like feeding my anxiety instead of calming myself down.  MH and I are young with no history in our families.  Also, I wasn't thrilled with the statistics of this scan.  

It is OK to feel nervous telling your families.  I am sure you will be relieved by their reactions and so happy that you have their support and don't have to hide it anymore.  I have just started to tell people in the last two days, and the first few times it was scary and now it is really exciting.  Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck mama! 

M&M227

Congrats!  We weren't really given a choice and I was the selfish person who wanted to see the baby.  I know that is not the reason for the NT scan, but I just needed to see that the baby was in there and all right.  NT scan is routine at our practice.